Self empowerment – Pagina 5

Be your naked self…

“The flower doesn’t dream of the bee. It blossoms and the bee comes.”

Marc Nepo

Are you contemplating your life right now ? Asking yourself several questions, wondering what course you have to take, overthinking a certain issue in your life…?

Have you been looking everywhere but still haven’t found the answer… ? You feel you are trapped in a vicious cycle…with no control over it whatsoever…

Do you feel lost ? You try to cope with life but you got completely stuck. You tried different directions, all to no avail…

Do you ask yourself : “Will I ever get out of this ? Will I ever experience happiness ?”

Let us find out who you really are and strip off :

All the so called good advice that leaves you insecure and even more indecisive about what to do or what you really want. “Shall I listen to what they say or shall I have it my way ?”

That uncomfortable feeling the critics give you when they try to break you down, when they say it can’t be done.

The doom scenarios that are popping up in your head. “Maybe I should forget about all this”. “What if it’s too good to be true ?” “What if I really don’t amount that much….?” All these doubts and worries are bringing your moral probably back to ground zero.

The belittling you experienced as a child and the ugly comments you had to listen to when you told people your childhood dreams…

The feeling of being all alone…No one believes in you…even your family and your friends aren’t supportive. You feel you are the black sheep of the family…

You became a champion in giving into your fears, your sadness, your bad luck…!

Know that what others think of you doesn’t matter, only how you react to it matters !

Reacting to all these opinions with a negative emotion is accepting them for real, is agreeing with their opinion and that’s how you keep pushing away or resisting your own happiness !

What you feel to be real will eventually materialize in your world. Not the opinion of others….your opinion matters, your feelings matter, where you focus on matters !

Who are you to tell me something isn’t possible for me ? Only I can do that ! Only I can claim what I will become, only I have that power !

Your imaginary force is yours and yours only. The feelings of your heart are yours and yours only. Don’t give your power away to all this negativity ! Don’t give others the key to your happiness, success, or even your health ! Making you worry, doubt, fear while you yourself are master of your destiny !

Let all these heavy feelings such as resentment, guilt, hate, shame, jealousy,….go ! These feelings are just too heavy for your heart. These are the ones killing your passion !

These feelings are all reactions to an illusion, none of this is real !

When you lift up the burden from your heart, your soul will start speaking to you !

Rejoicing ! Finally you go back to source !

And then passion will pop up again ! Joy will pop up again !

Love will pop out of your heart again !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Think of this as a window…

“All that you behold, though it appears without, it is within, in your imagination, of which this world of mortality is but a shadow.”

Blake

The world is just a screen, where a movie is played upon that has been scripted in your imagination.

Your IMAGINATION is your window, your window is your mind.

In your inner eye you are able to see what you would like to be.

IMAGINATION is reality. The physical world is the shadow it leaves behind.

All limitions arise in your mind. You limit yourself !

Your awareness creates your circumstances. You are the only one who can change your world.

YES YOU ARE !

“Leave the mirror and change your face. Leave the world alone and change your conceptions of yourself. The reflection then will be satisfactory.”

Neville

The change that you would like to see in your world must first take place in your mind.

If you want the movie to change, you need to rescript it !

At its origin.

At its source !

AND YOU ARE THAT !

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What do you want to be ?

A teacher asks her class, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

Little Johnny says “I wanna be a billionaire, going to the most expensive clubs, take the best bitch with me, give her a Ferrari worth over a million bucks, an apartment in Hawaii, a mansion in Paris, a jet to travel through Europe, an Infinite Visa Card and to make love to her three times a day”.

The teacher, shocked, and not knowing what to do with the bad behavior of the child, decides not to give importance to what he said and then continues the lesson. “And you, Susie? ” the teacher asks.

Susie says “I wanna be Johnny’s bitch.”

Sometimes I am censoring myself. I confess I deleted a whole sentence the other day. I thought I was exaggerating, I thought I was too sarcastic…

So I removed it and “swallowed my words back in” so to speak ! Untill I heard something on the news, they were talking about IT…

The news anchor said that more children are going to fitness clubs these days.

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Well that’s a good thing isn’t it ?

Yes, our children do need strong and healthy physical bodies ! Why do all these kids suddenly want to become super healthy…?

It’s not about health at all ! It’s all about “showing-off”. The boys want to show off their six packs and be able to “kick ass”. The girls just want to look like a supermodel or a superstar !

They interviewed a 14-year-old in that fitness club whose idol, whose example is Kim Kardashian. She wants to “look like” Kim Kardashian and have a lot of followers on Instagram…

“We are still far from truth when Kim K’s ass has more followers then the personal page of Nassim Haramein”… That’s the sentence that I deleted…

“Nassim who ?”

“Yes kids keep your FOCUS…”

And cherry on the cake…

Our national soccer federation has chosen the artist Damso to sing the official World Cup song…

Famous lyrics of him are : “Nasty slut, just shut the fuck up…” and things like that…

Well done guys ! Great example for our kids !

Seriously….Where are you heading ?

Silence isn’t an option, I’m gonna get that rhythm back !

“Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory” Bruce Lee

Phuro! Be inspired!

Throwing a tantrum ?

Ugly tackle on the field…Damn referee ! A nasty driver cut you off and you got a speeding ticket ! The rain just ruined your hair…and you spilled your cup of coffee all over the place ! You got bullied…School sucks !

Throwing a temper tantrum ? Need anger management ? Let us take these quick tips into consideration to get you in a calm state again !

Remove yourself from the scene !

Whenever it is possible : REMOVE yourself from the scene. Respect the people around you. They too could have had a bad hair day ! If you are harmful to other people and you continue your actions, know that you can or will be removed abruptly or violently. So you decide…it’s up to you whether you create more drama or STOP it !

Do something else !

Get totally lost in another activity. Cleaning, cooking, fitness, jogging,…Get rid off excessive energy. Run, run, run your lungs out. Punch a pillow.

Precautions have to be taken when driving a vehicle. Traffic can trigger agressive behaviour !

Clear your mind

Was your sister that annoying that you considered pulling her hair out ? Maybe there were already early signs of frustration present within you. When you woke up this morning, you could barely get out of bed, you were late and had to speed things up to be on time…and then she started to…

Today is a new canvas you can paint on, leave your dark colors in the drawer, leave your quarrels, arguments and grudges behind. You will feel instant relief from this mess and stress in your head when you don’t cooperate with it anymore. Don’t get pulled into drama all the time !

Calm down !

Create a space of your own where you can withdraw when neccessary. Prepare yourself a nice spot and make it cosy and comfortable. Do a lot of breathing exercices. Try to meditate…If you find meditation useless : Don’t feel bad but seek another calming activity : go for a walk in nature, listen to suiting music, read a book or take a nap !

Find your happy place !

Use your imagination to create a happy place just for yourself. Close your eyes and imagine a place where you are in total peace and harmony. Your happy place can be somewhere on vacation at the beach while you are looking at a sunset, maybe you imagine having 100 puppies around that need cuddling ! You are having a big rave…Or you find yourself having a walking closet with 1000 shoes in it…

Can you feel it ?

Find a cuddle buddy !

Do you have a special friend who can bring you back to your senses in no time ? Now is the time to make that call. Wherever they are or whatever they are doing, trust that they will try to do anything to assist you.

Being able to cuddle someone physically present is the quickest solution and will melt away anger and frustration in seconds. Do not contaminate the other with your toxic words or behavior. Just surrender to the loving feeling…

There you go…

Seek help !

If none of this helps and you or your environment suffer, when you know that your temper can go terribly wrong and you might want to hurt yourself or cause any harm to other beings, seek professional help ! A lot of dedicated professionals are ready to assist you !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Between breaths

“In a dream, in a vision of the night, while slumbering on their beds, then He opens the ears of men, and seals their instruction.”

Book of Job (33: 15-16)

It’s 9 am and you are sitting at your desk in front of your computer. Are you ready for take off ? Ready to face all challenges ?

The course of your day might depend on how it actually started. Let us rewind for a moment. What were you thinking of before you arrived at your workplace, when you were driving in your car ?

When you were at home, were you arguing with your spouse at the breakfast table ? Were you rushing to get the kids ready for school, were you screaming and shouting or running around like a headless chicken ?

When you heard your alarm going off this morning and you pushed the snooze button, how were you feeling ? Were you anxious to get out of bed, thinking : “All that awaits is another shitty day in the office” ? Well, isn’t that enough stress to start your day with ?

Why don’t you take some time to balance yourself and take control over the course of your day ?

Two key moments of the day is the morning when you wake up, when you open your eyes and the moment before you go to sleep, when you shut your eyes.

The morning is used to determine your vision. While you are still in bed, start by focusing on your breath, inhale slowly and deeply through your nose, exhale gently through your mouth. What do you exactly desire today ? Evoke a mental picture of your ideal day.

Keep breathing at a gentle pace and try to notice the pause beween your breaths, between filling and emptying your lungs.

If you increase this pause without forcing your breathing, your mind will become quieter, and a quiet mind means a powerful mind. You can access a natural state of higher consciousness.

Have you ever looked at a sunset, or a spectacular landscape and felt in awe ? Didn’t you say afterwards : “That moment just took my breath away” ? Didn’t your thinking cease aswell ?

The evening is intended to revise the day. Start to focus on your breath as you did in the morning. Rewind your day to see what has happened. This might be difficult in the beginning, but you’ll make progress very easily ! Once you’ve fully mastered this revision technique, you can put certain moments on hold.

Scenes for example that you would prefer to see differently, more enjoyable, you can start adjusting according to your preference !

Make sure you don’t cling on to fearful situations. Do not go to sleep constantly repeating all the bad stuff that has happened in your life. It’s important that you have a clear image of what you want and a positive feeling should accompany it. If you can’t imagine a positive outcome, you better focus on a positive statement or you can silently chant “OM” or repeat another mantra.

If you feel you are losing control during the day and troublesome emotions are bubbling up, use a breathing technique such as Freeze Frame® or Quick Coherence® developed by the HeartMath institute to bring you back into this balanced state. Always try to visualize a feel good situation, imagine yourself in your happy place just as Happy Gilmore did !

This vision and revision technique will help you “clean up” daily and you will consciously choose to steer your life in the direction you want.

It wil also help you build a pause between stimulus and response, before you react to the external stimuli around you.

Remember today is the first day of the rest of your life. Every day offers you a chance for renewal, every day is a gift !

Life loves you. Give that love back by putting it in yourself first and stop your negative self-talk, your oppressive, restrictive thoughts and focus on the good.

Brain cells create ideas.
Stress kills brain cells
Stress is not a good idea !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Pharug

“Pharug”- You might have thought what this term is. Search for it, and I am of the opinion that you won’t get the answer. Its because it is me, who coined this word by joining two words- Pharma and Drugs. Read more : Pharug.

Thank you Krafting Thoughts for another great blog contribution regarding mental health issues !

If you like to spread awareness for our cause, have a personal story to tell about your issues, or you have other useful tips or information for children and adults, please do share them while using the hashtag #confideinme in your blog or put a link to your blog in the comments below this article.

You are never alone ! Sharing is caring !

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Breathe Motherf*cker !

“Power is within us all. Anything can be overcome by going within. Recognizing that is great, and great for all.”

Wim Hof

Whoever has done mindfulness, yoga, meditation or heart coherence exercices knows that instructors and teachers ask to focus on the breath to access that calm, peaceful state and to relax mind and body !

I personnaly use Heartmath’s Emwave pro at home, I already tested it with several adults and children and it works amazingly well. It uses different kinds of vizualisations combined with breathing exercices to achieve heartcoherence.

While I was searching for an article on the internet, I came across an interview with Wim Hof. He is an exceptional guy from the Netherlands. Wim, “the Iceman”, has 21 guiness book records on his name : the longest icebath, finishing a marathon barely clothed in freezing temperatures,…

Wim is often mentioned in mental coaching, he is the perfect example of what man is really capable of if he has the will to do it ! The core of his method is a breathing technique.

I was sitting on my couch, headphone on and I started to listen to this interview with Wim. Well he was actually guiding a man through a breathing exercice and I decided to give it a try too. I closed my eyes and it felt as if I was sitting there too, almost as if Wim was talking to me.

It was an amazing experience, because the results were almost the same as in this video ! While I am already skillful when it comes to heartcoherence, I had never really tried to hold my breath for that long !

I really love the way Wim explains the process you are going through. He tells you exactely what is happening in a direct and simple way.

His method is scientifically tested and validated and Wim is sharing this with everyone ! You can find his method on his youtube channel where you have access to a bunch of his teaching videos.

Just be sure that you follow his instructions carefully and that when you are doing the breathing exercice you are in a safe place at home, in bed or on a couch. Never do this while you are in bath or in your car ! You could feel too dizzy and lightheaded or even faint !

If you would like to be able to defy the cold temperatures, to boost your immune system, increase your performances and access your own healing powers, I really recommend that you give Wim’s method a try.

And isn’t winter the excellent time to test his method and have that personal experience ? I dare you to give it a try ! Don’t worry I am not going to spare myself from the challenge eighter !

Feel free to share your findings afterwards with words, pictures or videos !

This cold challenge could be a gold challenge !

Phuro! Be inspired!

You are the captain !

“A ship without rudder may wander aimlessly among perilous isles yet sink not to the bottom.”

Khalil Gibran

Life is like an adventure at sea, at times it seems you are just aimlessly bobbing around. Sometimes you seem to sail against the current and you barely move forward. Sometimes you have to deal with failures on board that cause a short circuit and that leave your ship temporarily ungovernable. Other times, violent waves are threatening to hit you ashore.

PHURO’s task is to help you remember that YOU are the captain of your ship, the man or woman at the helm .

A coach can often be a light in the surf, a support when life gets rough. We can shed a different light on your situation and warn you to steer in another direction when danger threatens. A coach wasn’t spared of stormy weathers eighter and can teach you how to be resilient ! Nothing can stop you from your leading the life you want ! Kindle the light within and discover your true powers !

“The problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem.”

Captain Jack Sparrow

The true cause of what happens to you or around you is to be find inside, within yourself. You look at yourself and the world with a certain perception, a belief about how things should be.

Did you leave the ship’s command to someone else who programmed it for a totally different course than the one intended for you?

Parents, teachers, friends and enemies have influenced your course or have encouraged you to change it. Now you are going against the natural flow, which costs you a lot of effort and energy ! Because of all these different layers of colored glass, your own visor got muddy and blurred. You assume that what others are thinking of you is true.

Are you sailing amidst a thick fog, not exactly knowing where you are going ?

All your thoughts and beliefs create a smokescreen around you. Limiting thoughts can ensure that you stay safe in the harbor. What you believe about yourself can stop you from sailing your own race. Because of the lies and illusions you believe in, you no longer notice the light in yourself.

Did the turbulent waters make your ship drift away ? Is it adrift somewhere, battered and battle-scarred?

Emotions are energy in motion and can be described as the GPS of the soul. Your feelings tell you when you are off course. Maybe you have already ignored all the signals your body was sending you and now the nervous breakdown, burnout or depression are knocking at your door. Your body will shout “stop” eventually if you don’t listen to it and you’ll be obliged to stay ashore ! Ready for big maintenance…

Have you overloaded your ship with useless weight making it barely moving ?

Battle-scarred, battered and heavily loaded you try to continue your journey. The hold is full of useless things, fears and regrets of the past, stress or worries about the future … You don’t advance at all and you are obliged to return to the port to leave things behind, to unload stuff, and to let go for good…

Phuro helps you to recognize the still waters so you can easily manouver the ship without resistance.

Your body knows how to relax perfectly, your mind gets in the way! Your mental chatter, your constant negative self-talk keeps the door to your treasure locked. Because of all these monkeys in your mind, you can’t hear your real voice anymore and you completely forgot about the silence.

Phuro hands you a new lens through which you get a clear view of where you are and where you are going.

When you have recognized a pattern, when you have untangled a knot, released an emotion, you have freed yourself and you start lightning up ! Layer after layer, you can eliminate the doubts and fears in yourself and find out who you really are ! You have your lens back completely cleared !

We climb into the eyrie, where you have a complete view of what is happening around you. Everything is so peaceful and calm here… It makes you wonder : why haven’t I been here before ?

You can only climb high into the eagle’s nest if you drop all blinders and throw all useless weights overboard. In the eyrie you have a full view of 360 °, you get access to an endless array of possibilities. As you reach for the stars, you get support from higher regions. You feel the natural flow and you again experience the wind in the sails…

Are you ready to clean up and be a beacon of light ?

Phuro! Be inspired!

Curiosity kills the cat

“Catwomen are not contained by the rules of society. You follow your own desires. This is both a blessing and a curse. You will often be alone and misunderstood, but you will experience a freedom other women will never know.”

They say curiosity kills the cat. Bullshit !

A cat will always be a cat, wild and free, always desiring to be independent. It’s in its nature !

Curiosity doesn’t kill the cat. Captivity kills curiosity, imprisonment kills the cat !

If you take away a cat’s essence, their spirit gets broken. Just as with people.

There are millions of broken people, experiencing pain because they are going against their grain.

Their light has been dimmed by society. Society shuts down people who are different, who color outside the lines.

At an early age, children get all these labels, ADD or ADHD,…all we are doing is killing their curiosity and creativity !

We all are striving for society’s perfection, we have to perform and show results because only then we feel validated or appreciated !

We let people decide what’s best for us. Maybe your father said : “Why can’t you do something decent with your life like Mary ? Maybe your mom said :” My child, that is absolutely nothing for you, that is way too dangerous, what if…”

What if I constantly tell people “yes”, when I really feel the need to say “no” ?

What if I stay in an unfulfilling job, choosing “security” but I burried my dreams and my heart’s desires ?

What if I stayed in a bad relationship because I told myself I wasn’t worth any better ?

What if I am in pain because society is pushing me in some kind of direction without me being aware of it ? A direction that is not mine…

I would become unrecognazible to myself, a stranger to myself !

What if you feel deep down in your core, that the way the world goes isn’t that natural after all ?

What if you are sane in an insane world and you just keep blaming yourself for not being who you really are ?

“You are a Catwoman. Every sight, every smell, every sound, incredibly heightened. Fierce independence, total confidence, inhuman reflexes. You spent a lifetime caged, by accepting who you are, all of who you are, you can be free, and freedom is power.”

Phuro! Be inspired!

Wolf and woman

“Some days I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologizing for my wild.”

Nikita Gill

Don’t you at times want to howl like a wolf under the full moon, eyes shut and head thrown back, pouring your heart out, crying, mourning, letting out all your pain and loneliness ? Expressing yourself loudly and freely ?

Native Americans said that when the wolf howled he created wind. If he continued to howl fog came. They considered the moon its power alley.

Throughout history and culture powerful archetypal women and goddesses were depicted accompagnied by wolves, as it represented freedom, courageousness and fierceness.

Women who trusted their intuition, their inner intelligence were often seen as witches by patriarchal society or portreyed as the seductive ones or the evil ones. Associated with the moon, the wolf became the symbol of darkness, temptation and danger. At a deep level, women still carry the pain of being prosecuted by patriarchy for their innate wisdom and power they were forced to hide.

Learning to howl requires that we tap into the deepest recesses of our soul, and that takes courage because what lies that deep is not always pretty or sweet smelling. Else it might as well be out in the open…

Discovering the wolf inside :

Wisdom

A wolf woman is courageous and dares to speak her truth. Allthough this woman often walks a lonely path, often covered with challenges, she has learned how to use and trust her intuition. She has embraced her shadowside and she has managed to walk through the dark with an extreme confidence in herself.

Opportunity

A wolf woman is a trailblazer. Instead of following someone else’s footsteps, she creates a path of her own. She has a laser focus on what she wants and she recognizes the signs along her way that create opportunities for herself.

Love

A wolf woman has conquered her fears and has chosen love to be her guiding force. She is a nurturing mother and protects the vulnerable. She knows love is the garment of her true naked self.

Freedom

A wolf woman has found her way out of the maze. She has gone beyond the roles she occupies in life and the identities she took on along the way. She knows these are only masks, cover ups for who she really is. She is a passionate expression of who she genuinely desires to be.

Are you being true to your authentic self ? Do you have the freedom to do what you want in life ? Is there room to be you ?

Bring some WOLF back in your life ! Phuro! Be inspired!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S4On1m1t-H0

In an interview with Pi-Pôle, Max Colombie revealed the meaning behind his band’s name: “Oscar is a name I really like – it’s poetic and light. And wolf is the dark animal that comes out at night and howls to the full moon, and moon stands for solitude and coldness. It’s bright and dark together, because that’s how I see my music – as a balance between light and dark.”