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Visualisation

Visualisation is all about selecting the right mental images ! Using your imagination is very important in all creative processes !

You are about to do something that makes you fearful. Now you can tell your subconscious mind : “Don’t be afraid” or ou can make a mental picture of your fear and say “Don’t do that !”

The subconscious will only see the picture and completely forget about the “don’t” and “not”, because these words mean nothing to it !

Mental image of what you don’t want + positive words = Low vibration, negative feeling, no positive result !

Mental image of what you want + negative words : Low vibration, negative feeling, no positive result !

Mental image of what you want + positive words : High vibration, positive feeling, positive result !

Just turn things around and focus on the result : if it doesn’t feel good, change your vision until it does !

You must influence your subconscious with the right impressions ! YES, IMPRESS IT ! You must make mental pictures of what you want and REPEAT them diligently but with ease, effortlessly…

It’s about selecting your view, envisioning “who you want to be” or “what you want to do” and feel your way into it, untill it really feels that good and naturel that you are completely comfortable with the outcome !

So it is a matter of focus and attention and one of internalising and intention !

And if you have a friend who supports your vision, you are definitely lucky…

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Emotions come and go…

“Emotions come and go. Remember to only process the feelings of a particular (negative) emotion for FIVE MINUTES and then let go ! Holding on to a negative emotion for more than 5 minutes is simply self-sabotage, denial and punishment !”

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Soccer is a TEAM sport

We all know that soccer is a competitive sport between two teams. But how often do we see that team members are quarreling against eachother or that players sabotage themselves during the game ?

If you are a soccer player, know that your biggest opponent is often yourself ! Let us go into the group dynamics of a soccer team and categorize some of these players.

The thinker

Do you believe there’s a voice in your head that is always there to criticize you and contradicting everything that you do ? That’s your inner critic who is getting in the way ! He can say nasty things like : “You can never repeat such a move again.” or : “You moron, that ball should have been in !”

It’s not a good time to judge every move you make on the field. Trust that you will perform at your best and stay focused. Observe your actions instead of judging them !

The doubter

Doubters lack self confidence. Their self talk is usually negative and judgemental towards themselves and they are easily struck down by the criticism of others (team members, opponents, coach and supporters). Watch the body language of the player altering after a remark : he will be completely out of the game (not focused), and he will lose strength (the remark “hits” him and makes him go weak !)

The bully

So you think you are strong when you’re angry ? Guess what ? Nope ! An aggressive and tensed player gets weak too and is prone to injuries. Why ? Whenever you are not balanced, you will use muscles that aren’t neccessarily useful during soccer. Your muscles will start contracting, you will use a lot of energy that you could have used to the maximum when you would have been focused on the game ! Not to mention the consequences you have to face afterwards when you were verbally or physically aggressive towards someone…

The cryer

Here’s the other side of the emotional pendulum : the sad one always plays the victim. Just as the angry player will go weak, the emotional one will lack the energy to play a good game. They often are not resilient to what happens around them and would rather throw in the towel after a misser. Why continue ? We have already lost the game…Their head is already in the shower…

The frustrated player

The frustrated one will focus on everything that goes wrong in the team and will get angry because of his own “stupidity” or because of other players’ actions. He will eventually start yelling at other players and will get stressed and demotivated too. Remember that you are a team and that you have a common goal to achieve. Keep yourself and others motivated !

The unmotivated player

Are you forced by your parents to play soccer ? Would you rather do something else then playing soccer ? Are you just keeping your father’s dream alive ? Time for an honest chat if you would ask me !

Players can also get demotivated by their environnement. This includes angry parents and coaches, supporters, jealous girlfriends, disputes between team members etc…

And then there are players who don’t show up for practise and expect to play and win the next game on saturday…

The egoist

So you think you got it all worked out for you…and that you really don’t need to practise that hard. It’s a piece of cake acccording to you. You would rather drop dead than to pass the ball to a team member whose in a better position to score. You are surprised when other team members start to exclude you. “What are they thinking ? Ignoring a great talent like me….”

Also remember that “Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.”

The comedian

You do need fun and pleasure otherwise you will never keep on top of your performances, but that doesn’t mean the game has to become a caricature, a theatre play or a drama. Don’t waste your precious time by giving us a magnificent show, people are here to watch a soccer game, not a stand up comedy !

The balanced one

Do you really want to be the next Messi or Ronaldo ? When the passion for soccer comes from deep within…you are destined to become a great athlete ! The great ones keep going despite all outer appearences and judgements of others…

Remember they said Messi was too small to be a succesful soccer player ? You can always prove them wrong. Build up your mental strength and emotional resilience and work hard to be a winner !

Next time we’ll discuss the tools you can use to beat any opposition on your way to success !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Black panther

“Shadows dripping in silver light cast from an illusive moon, stir, then magically still, leaving doubts adrift in the mind of the observer…Was there movement of shadow within shadow or only the illusion of such, like breath caught on a summer breeze ?

Sister of Artemis, and Guardian of the Gateway between the Known and the Unknown, you prowl the Night, bearing witness to the blackness that exists before the dawning of morning Light. Blazing eyes pierce the veil of darkness of Forgotten Realms, to bring Consciousness to the Unconscious.

To follow your sleek and silent form as it glides as a spectral mist through the night, is to face the deepest fears that prowl the jungles of the Human Mind.

When we learn to move as you move, through those overgrown and tangled vines, we come to understand that even in the darkest of journeys, the Illuminating Rays of Faith and Acknowledgement will provide us with the Light to guide us safely on the Other Side.”

Wolf’s moon

No, this isn’t another review of the movie – although it’s definitely on my list to watch. I want to talk about this gracious big cat that is a symbol for strength, prophecy and transformation.

I really do believe the black panther is my spirit animal. There are a lot of similarities between us. What does it mean when “the black panther” appears to you as a spirit guide or is near in your life ?

Black panthers are natural protectors and leaders

The black cats in my life have always considered themselves my guardian angels. My first cat that accompanied me through childhood was a black one, she was 18 when she passed away. Later Buffy became my black protector, she would have beaten you up whenever you came too close to me !

I remember the first time my boyfriend stayed over night, he got up with scars all over his face. You never know when their dark side takes over – especially when no one is watching !

Black panthers are the ultimate shapeshifters

Black panthers actually are leopards or jaguars with a genetic difference that gives them a black coat. Their authentic nature is hidden, you can only see slight color variations and spots when you are very close to the animal, so they are masters of disguise and are able to move through the dark without notice.

Black panthers encourage us to embrace our shadow side

Black panthers help us eliminate our fear of the dark and the unknown. They will guide us while we work through our fears. They urge us to expand our awareness and to become a “whole” new person. They tell you that you are safe while making this transition.

Black panthers enjoy solitude

Black panthers are born loners and will tend to connect to other solitary souls. They often move in and out of someone’s life, just to assist for a brief period of time. Panther people rarely reveal too much about themselves. They know when to be silent or rather let their actions speak.

Black panthers are symbol for strength and willpower

People tend to have an adoration for these animals because of their fierceness and strength. The black panther will show agression when it is cornered and won’t shy away from a fight if necessary.

If you have the black panther as your totem, you are likely to be brave, always prepared to go the extra mile and focused on getting what you want !

Black panther is curious and awakens our inner passions or our slumbering talents. The black panther urges us to reclaim our power, especially after a period of pain and suffering.

Black panthers are symbol of the feminine, sensitivity and sexuality

Black panthers often appear to women, they ask them to stand their own ground and use their natural given powers properly. This includes embracing all of who you are ! If you were victim of harassement or rape, the black panther will offer assistance in getting rid of feelings such as shame, blame and guilt.

Black panthers have prophetic qualities

Black panthers are very sensitive to energy and are extremely intuitive. They are able to read another’s energy and to even influence the thoughts and actions of others. They clearly see your motives and your intentions, making people think Black panther people can look in the future. Because of their understanding of people’s actions and motives, you better be honest with them, as they see through all the lies you tell ! They easily spot fake people.

Black panthers often struggle to find their own identity

They might feel as a stranger in a strange land. Absolutely not of this world ! Their direct approach can seem very threatening to others and they often catch attention undeliberately ! You will eighter love a panther or totally dislike them !

Transformation

When the spirit of the black panther is fully empowered within us they teach others that there is nothing in the darkness to be feared and that you can use the light to shine away all darkness !

How can you be of service ?

Let your heart speak !

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Tips for champions

“Part of my preparation is I go and ask the kit man what colour we’re wearing – if it’s red top, white shorts, white socks or black socks. Then I lie in bed the night before the game and visualise myself scoring goals or doing well. You’re trying to put yourself in that moment and trying to prepare yourself, to have a ‘memory’ before the game. I don’t know if you’d call it visualising or dreaming, but I’ve always done it, my whole life.”

Wayne Rooney.

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Sunshine blogger award

Wat een leuke award ! Bedankt Esther om mij voor de Sunshine blogger award te nomineren. De Sunshine blogger award wordt aan bloggers gegeven wiens blogs inspirerend, positief of creatief zijn…Phuro! Be inspired! is heel blij er ééntje in ontvangst te mogen nemen van Esther !

Ik ben enorm gevleid en vind dit echt de kers op de taart, de nominatie zelf is een beloning en eert oprechte passie ! Je vindt de blog van Esther hier : http://www.heyesther.nl/genomineerd-sunshine-blogger-award/, ik hoop dan ook dat je haar een bezoekje brengt !

De regels die voor deze nominatie gelden zijn :

Bedankt en tag de blogger die je nomineerde in jouw blogpost.

Beantwoord de 11 vragen die deze blogger voor jou heeft opgesteld.

Nomineer zelf 11 bloggers om deze award te mogen ontvangen en stel 11 vragen voor hun op.

Som alle regels op en plaats het logo van de Sunshine blogger-award in je blogpost.

Hier volgen de 11 vragen die Esther me heeft voorgeschoteld !

1. Hoe ziet jouw ideale leven er over 10 jaar uit ?

Een gelukkig gezinsleven staat steeds op de eerste plaats. Verder hoop ik heel creatief te blijven en mensen te blijven inspireren. Mijn droom is dat “Phuro! Be inspired!” een echt begrip wordt, niet om mezelf in de belangstelling te plaatsen, de boodschap blijft belangrijker dan diegene die de boodschap brengt ! De boodschap is ook universeel en niet gebonden aan enige religie of wat dan ook, daarom dat ik al wat vaker in het Engels blog.

Phuro is een complete mantra, een mantra die mensen inspireert om door te gaan. Babaji zei dat onze lichamen niet onsterfelijk zijn, inspirerende woorden zijn dat daarentegen wel. Ik hoop dat “Phuro” mijn nalatenschap mag zijn !

2. Wat droom je nog een keer te doen ?

Een wereldreis maken om de allermooiste plekken op aarde te gaan bezoeken. Ik zou ook alle mensen die ik doorheen de jaren heb leren kennen via Facebook en andere media willen opzoeken om een leuke tijd met hen beleven !

3. Met welk dier zou je jezelf willen vergelijken en waarom ?

Ik ben gefascineerd door zwarte panters. Het zijn krachtige en mysterieuze dieren. Ik heb steeds katten rondom mij gehad, waaronder twee gitzwarte exemplaren. Deze voelden zich steeds geroepen om mij te bewaken en hebben echt als beschermengelen gefungeerd. Buffy zou je zelfs zwaar hebben toegetakeld als je me zou bedreigen !

De zwarte panter draagt heel wat symboliek met zich mee en ik beschouw het dier als één van mijn totems. (De andere totem is de slang). Zo zijn er heel wat eigenschappen die ik met het dier gemeen heb en ik heb ook een tatoeage van een zwarte panter ! Misschien vertel ik daar wel meer over in een volgende blog !

4. In welk land zou jij willen wonen ?

Ik hou van afgezonderde plaatsen, ik zie me het liefst in de nabijheid van een meer wonen met heel veel bomen rond het huis. Ik zie mezelf al lekker knus geïnstalleerd in een boomhut ! Mijn voorkeur zou uitgaan naar Canada.

5. Heb je een wens gehad, die ooit is uitgekomen ?

Ik heb mijn soulmate gevonden, dé liefde van mijn leven. We schelen wel exact een halve meter, nu weet je meteen de echte reden waarom ik zo vaak hoge hakken draag 🙂

6. Welk persoon heeft jou het meest geïnspireerd in je leven ?

Jezus en Babaji zijn de belangrijkste personen ! Ik ben niet echt katholiek opgevoed en van thuis uit zijn we nooit kerkgangers geweest, toch had ik als kind een connectie met Jezus. Ik herinner mij ook nog dat ik mij als kind verkleedde als Maria, en één van mijn poppen was surrogaat voor Jezus…ik heb hier zelfs nog fotobewijs van !

Tijdens mijn “apenjaren” kwam mijn geloof op een zwak pitje te staan en toen ik later door een zwarte periode ging, had ik het meest aan de leer van Babaji. Door hem ben ik echt het spirituele pad opgegaan en vielen alle puzzelstukken langzaam op zijn plaats.

See the ant. How small is the ant, yet how big a load she carries.
You should not be dejected or disheartened.
If we want; we can blow the whole of this mountain- if we all want; if we have Will. Don’t lose your hearts in this small Work.
When you lose your heart, when you lose courage- this is death.
Don’t lose courage.
You can move the mountain !

Babaji

7. Heb je een quote die je graag hoort ?

Ja, natuurlijk ! Er zijn er echter zoveel dat ik amper kan kiezen ! Maar deze is wel heel toepasselijk voor de Sunshine blogger award !

8. Welke doelstellingen heb jij voor 2018 gesteld ?

Vooral trouw blijven aan mezelf en enkele persoonlijke en universele barrières doorbreken ! Meer vertel ik hier niet over, dat is iets tussen God en mij ! Shhhhttttt !!!

9. Wat vind je het leukste om te doen in je leven ?

Mensen inspireren om hun ware zelf te vinden. Ik vind het altijd leuk om horen wanneer mensen zeggen dat ik ze aan het denken zet…

10. Hoe zou je jezelf in een woord omschrijven ?

Een mysterie !!!

11. Ben je sportief en zo ja waar hou je dan van ?

Ik hou me niet intensief bezig met sporten maar ben van nature soepel en lenig, daarom doe ik heel graag yoga. Ik wandel ook graag. Als ik mij echt wil uitleven, dan zet ik muziek op en spring ik op mijn crosstrainer !

Wie ik in de bloemetjes wil zetten :

Bij deze nomineer ik de volgende personen/blogs voor de Sunshine blogger award :

https://littlestorytellerblog.wordpress.com/

https://deverbeeldingscoach.blog/

https://mamavandrieblogt.com/

https://theunmixedgirl.wordpress.com/

https://katrienity.wordpress.com/

https://rebekkaengels.com/

https://livelikeconfetti.wordpress.com/

https://vinylcoffee.wordpress.com/

http://iloveinspiration.nl/

https://mensensamenleving.me/

https://shivatje.wordpress.com

Indien je al genomineerd was voor deze award of het niet zien zitten om aan deze uitdaging mee te doen, weet dat ik je heb genomineerd omdat ik je enorm apprecieer, voel je dus niet verplicht, blijf vooral wie je bent !

Hier zijn de vragen voor de genomineerden :

Ervaar je al eens momenten van synchroniciteit ?
Als je ooit een déjà-vu had, kreeg je er dan een positief gevoel of een negatief gevoel bij ?
Als er iemand in het openbaar een microfoon onder jouw neus zou duwen en jou zou vragen om een lied te zingen, zou je het durven ? Welk lied zou je kiezen ?
Als je een maand helemaal alleen zou moeten spenderen, zonder enig iemand te zien, op welke plaats zou je dan het liefst vertoeven ?
Is er iets waarvan je heel veel schrik hebt ? Zou je die angst ooit kunnen overwinnen ?
Wat is jouw manier om volledig te ontspannen ?
Beam me up scotty ! Wat zou jouw bestemming zijn ?
Welke bekende maar overleden persoon had je graag eens gesproken ?
Als je de wereld en iedereen erin op pauze kon zetten gedurende één dag, wat zou je dan allemaal in jouw eentje doen ?
Stel je voor : je sterft en jouw wens is dat iedereen verkleed naar jouw begrafenis komt. Hoe zouden de meest belangrijke personen in jouw leven er dan uit zien ?
Je krijgt jouw “5 minutes of fame”, wat zou je zeggen of doen ?

Veel succes !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Between breaths

“In a dream, in a vision of the night, while slumbering on their beds, then He opens the ears of men, and seals their instruction.”

Book of Job (33: 15-16)

It’s 9 am and you are sitting at your desk in front of your computer. Are you ready for take off ? Ready to face all challenges ?

The course of your day might depend on how it actually started. Let us rewind for a moment. What were you thinking of before you arrived at your workplace, when you were driving in your car ?

When you were at home, were you arguing with your spouse at the breakfast table ? Were you rushing to get the kids ready for school, were you screaming and shouting or running around like a headless chicken ?

When you heard your alarm going off this morning and you pushed the snooze button, how were you feeling ? Were you anxious to get out of bed, thinking : “All that awaits is another shitty day in the office” ? Well, isn’t that enough stress to start your day with ?

Why don’t you take some time to balance yourself and take control over the course of your day ?

Two key moments of the day is the morning when you wake up, when you open your eyes and the moment before you go to sleep, when you shut your eyes.

The morning is used to determine your vision. While you are still in bed, start by focusing on your breath, inhale slowly and deeply through your nose, exhale gently through your mouth. What do you exactly desire today ? Evoke a mental picture of your ideal day.

Keep breathing at a gentle pace and try to notice the pause beween your breaths, between filling and emptying your lungs.

If you increase this pause without forcing your breathing, your mind will become quieter, and a quiet mind means a powerful mind. You can access a natural state of higher consciousness.

Have you ever looked at a sunset, or a spectacular landscape and felt in awe ? Didn’t you say afterwards : “That moment just took my breath away” ? Didn’t your thinking cease aswell ?

The evening is intended to revise the day. Start to focus on your breath as you did in the morning. Rewind your day to see what has happened. This might be difficult in the beginning, but you’ll make progress very easily ! Once you’ve fully mastered this revision technique, you can put certain moments on hold.

Scenes for example that you would prefer to see differently, more enjoyable, you can start adjusting according to your preference !

Make sure you don’t cling on to fearful situations. Do not go to sleep constantly repeating all the bad stuff that has happened in your life. It’s important that you have a clear image of what you want and a positive feeling should accompany it. If you can’t imagine a positive outcome, you better focus on a positive statement or you can silently chant “OM” or repeat another mantra.

If you feel you are losing control during the day and troublesome emotions are bubbling up, use a breathing technique such as Freeze Frame® or Quick Coherence® developed by the HeartMath institute to bring you back into this balanced state. Always try to visualize a feel good situation, imagine yourself in your happy place just as Happy Gilmore did !

This vision and revision technique will help you “clean up” daily and you will consciously choose to steer your life in the direction you want.

It wil also help you build a pause between stimulus and response, before you react to the external stimuli around you.

Remember today is the first day of the rest of your life. Every day offers you a chance for renewal, every day is a gift !

Life loves you. Give that love back by putting it in yourself first and stop your negative self-talk, your oppressive, restrictive thoughts and focus on the good.

Brain cells create ideas.
Stress kills brain cells
Stress is not a good idea !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Tell it as it is

It’s that time of the year…everyone is instigating eachother with germs. I was amongst the unlucky ones this week and got struck, I really felt miserable, unable to write, just feeling the need to rest and to sleep !

Monday I promised someone to be present at a meeting to offer him support but I was obliged to cancel it. By the end of the day, I had lost my voice completely !

I am still wondering whether this was a good thing or a bad thing. Soccer meetings are dangerous and can even get me mixed up further. I tell you why.

No one is speaking their truth anymore. No one “tells it as it is”. Sometimes there’s a lot of gossip going around before the meeting and you assume people will mention all of this…untill they are standing face to face with the person concerned, then they completely shut down !

So what follows is that me, highly sensitive as I am, after “reading” and collecting all the members’ frustrations I just spit them out ! There’s nothing funny about that really !

Before you have completed a sentence, there’s the moderator of the meeting, getting in defensive/aggressive mode, acting more as a buffer zone between the board and us.

It’s a constant play of throwing the ball back and forth without getting to a real solution. A game none of us can win. You might aswell play bullshit bingo…

A lot of people don’t realize that you can regard any group, company, club as a person. It has a spirit too. You don’t need a crystal ball to know that a sick mind will take sick actions eventually, there’s no difference with group “spirits”. I am convinced the board of our soccer club has a completely different agenda than ours.

There’s lack of focus, lack of vision, no structure at all. Instead of regarding their youthplayers as their potential and taking action towards their growth, supporting us with material and other needs, they are just sucking the life completely out of us ! It’s like they are slowly letting us bleed to death….

Being a strong advocate of putting the right man or woman at the right place, I even offered my services to help them but there was barely interest. All they could see was my wrapping paper that said “woman and blond”, useless to say I got my hands off it and these gentlemen lost an opportunity for good…

Do I often go to these meetings ? I used to …but not anymore, I am a lover, not a fighter ! I am a doer, not a talker ! They know I will be back when instead of arguing they will be inspired to take some real action !

And for those with eyes to see and ears to listen : all useful coaching information is on my website…

Phuro! Be inspired!