“Pharug”- You might have thought what this term is. Search for it, and I am of the opinion that you won’t get the answer. Its because it is me, who coined this word by joining two words- Pharma and Drugs. Read more : Pharug.
Thank you Krafting Thoughts for another great blog contribution regarding mental health issues !
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Recently a friend’s 10-year-old saw the tattoos on my wrists and she started asking questions.
“Why do you have a cross tattooed on your arm ? Do you believe in Jesus ?”, she asked. I told her : “Yes I do”.
She looked surprised. “No one goes to church anymore”, she said. “Me neighter”, I confessed.
“Jesus didn’t say we had to follow a church or a religion”, I continued. “He was showing us the way how we could find God within ourselves. People worship his image instead of really listening to what he has to say. The cross became a symbol of death instead of faith and ressurection !
Babaji and Jesus
Painting by Nayaswami Jyotish
She turned to my right arm this time. “And what is this ?”, she asked. This is the OM symbol”, I said. “It’s the vibration of the universe, the first sound ever made on earth, it is the sound of God.”
I pulled a 136,10 tuning fork out of my bag. “Close your eyes”, I asked. “C’mon, you can trust me”. I stroke the tuning fork on my knee and I held it close to her ear. She immediately opened her eyes when she heard the sound. She was in awe !
“You can use this OM fork when you meditate, it will get you easily in a calm and peaceful state.”
“You can also use it when you are chanting mantras. Mantras carry blessings. My favorite one is “Om Namah Shivaya”. It is a mantra given by Haidakhan Babaji to his devotees all around the world. He brought a message of truth, love, simplicity and service to mankind.”
“Just as Jesus did ?” the little girl asked.
“Yes exactly”, I said ! “They do have a lot in common. They are both avatars.”
She really got interested when she heard that word. “You mean kind of like Aang ?”
I nodded. “Avatars usually come to earth for a restricted period of time to guide people on the path of liberation and to show them their own divinity. They come to rekindle the fire in people’s hearts. Some are even amongst us right now, without our knowing. They are here, behind the scenes, ready to help us !”
She was a little dazzled now ! “So you have two avatar symbols on your body !”, she proclaimed !
“That’s one way of seeing it”, I answered. “For me they are just reminders to send forth blessings to mankind and to never forget who we are !”
“Power is within us all. Anything can be overcome by going within. Recognizing that is great, and great for all.”
Wim Hof
Whoever has done mindfulness, yoga, meditation or heart coherence exercices knows that instructors and teachers ask to focus on the breath to access that calm, peaceful state and to relax mind and body !
I personnaly use Heartmath’s Emwave pro at home, I already tested it with several adults and children and it works amazingly well. It uses different kinds of vizualisations combined with breathing exercices to achieve heartcoherence.
While I was searching for an article on the internet, I came across an interview with Wim Hof. He is an exceptional guy from the Netherlands. Wim, “the Iceman”, has 21 guiness book records on his name : the longest icebath, finishing a marathon barely clothed in freezing temperatures,…
Wim is often mentioned in mental coaching, he is the perfect example of what man is really capable of if he has the will to do it ! The core of his method is a breathing technique.
I was sitting on my couch, headphone on and I started to listen to this interview with Wim. Well he was actually guiding a man through a breathing exercice and I decided to give it a try too. I closed my eyes and it felt as if I was sitting there too, almost as if Wim was talking to me.
It was an amazing experience, because the results were almost the same as in this video ! While I am already skillful when it comes to heartcoherence, I had never really tried to hold my breath for that long !
I really love the way Wim explains the process you are going through. He tells you exactely what is happening in a direct and simple way.
His method is scientifically tested and validated and Wim is sharing this with everyone ! You can find his method on his youtube channel where you have access to a bunch of his teaching videos.
Just be sure that you follow his instructions carefully and that when you are doing the breathing exercice you are in a safe place at home, in bed or on a couch. Never do this while you are in bath or in your car ! You could feel too dizzy and lightheaded or even faint !
If you would like to be able to defy the cold temperatures, to boost your immune system, increase your performances and access your own healing powers, I really recommend that you give Wim’s method a try.
And isn’t winter the excellent time to test his method and have that personal experience ? I dare you to give it a try ! Don’t worry I am not going to spare myself from the challenge eighter !
Feel free to share your findings afterwards with words, pictures or videos !
“A ship without rudder may wander aimlessly among perilous isles yet sink not to the bottom.”
Khalil Gibran
Life is like an adventure at sea, at times it seems you are just aimlessly bobbing around. Sometimes you seem to sail against the current and you barely move forward. Sometimes you have to deal with failures on board that cause a short circuit and that leave your ship temporarily ungovernable. Other times, violent waves are threatening to hit you ashore.
PHURO’s task is to help you remember that YOU are the captain of your ship, the man or woman at the helm .
A coach can often be a light in the surf, a support when life gets rough. We can shed a different light on your situation and warn you to steer in another direction when danger threatens. A coach wasn’t spared of stormy weathers eighter and can teach you how to be resilient ! Nothing can stop you from your leading the life you want ! Kindle the light within and discover your true powers !
“The problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude about the problem.”
Captain Jack Sparrow
The true cause of what happens to you or around you is to be find inside, within yourself. You look at yourself and the world with a certain perception, a belief about how things should be.
Did you leave the ship’s command to someone else who programmed it for a totally different course than the one intended for you?
Parents, teachers, friends and enemies have influenced your course or have encouraged you to change it. Now you are going against the natural flow, which costs you a lot of effort and energy ! Because of all these different layers of colored glass, your own visor got muddy and blurred. You assume that what others are thinking of you is true.
Are you sailing amidst a thick fog, not exactly knowing where you are going ?
All your thoughts and beliefs create a smokescreen around you. Limiting thoughts can ensure that you stay safe in the harbor. What you believe about yourself can stop you from sailing your own race. Because of the lies and illusions you believe in, you no longer notice the light in yourself.
Did the turbulent waters make your ship drift away ? Is it adrift somewhere, battered and battle-scarred?
Emotions are energy in motion and can be described as the GPS of the soul. Your feelings tell you when you are off course. Maybe you have already ignored all the signals your body was sending you and now the nervous breakdown, burnout or depression are knocking at your door. Your body will shout “stop” eventually if you don’t listen to it and you’ll be obliged to stay ashore ! Ready for big maintenance…
Have you overloaded your ship with useless weight making it barely moving ?
Battle-scarred, battered and heavily loaded you try to continue your journey. The hold is full of useless things, fears and regrets of the past, stress or worries about the future … You don’t advance at all and you are obliged to return to the port to leave things behind, to unload stuff, and to let go for good…
Phuro helps you to recognize the still waters so you can easily manouver the ship without resistance.
Your body knows how to relax perfectly, your mind gets in the way! Your mental chatter, your constant negative self-talk keeps the door to your treasure locked. Because of all these monkeys in your mind, you can’t hear your real voice anymore and you completely forgot about the silence.
Phuro hands you a new lens through which you get a clear view of where you are and where you are going.
When you have recognized a pattern, when you have untangled a knot, released an emotion, you have freed yourself and you start lightning up ! Layer after layer, you can eliminate the doubts and fears in yourself and find out who you really are ! You have your lens back completely cleared !
We climb into the eyrie, where you have a complete view of what is happening around you. Everything is so peaceful and calm here… It makes you wonder : why haven’t I been here before ?
You can only climb high into the eagle’s nest if you drop all blinders and throw all useless weights overboard. In the eyrie you have a full view of 360 °, you get access to an endless array of possibilities. As you reach for the stars, you get support from higher regions. You feel the natural flow and you again experience the wind in the sails…
Are you ready to clean up and be a beacon of light ?
It was again a headliner in our news yesterday : Several youngsters, age 14-25, are not feeling comfortable in their skin, more depressed teenagers…It sounds as if it is becoming a plague !
Children are drifting without direction, feeling lost or feeling drowned in a bunch of illusions…Our children are not broken, they don’t need to be fixed ! Their view is disturbed.
They have to put on new glasses and learn how to perceive their world differently. They have to put things back into perspective and broaden their view.
That means parents too. Children often mirror their parents’ behaviour. When you coach a child, you often need to re-educate the parents !
A lot of my coaching time in sports is spent on learning children how to cope with all distractions on and around the field. I can’t help but having the impression they need to defend themselves more and more against adult behaviour !
How often do we stress on the negative ? Are we feeding them that they have to focus on results ? “Don’t let me down son !” or “Don’t dissapoint me !” Or are we stimulating them with a “Surprise me”, or an “I know you can do this !”
I often hear parents shouting at their kids next to the field. They see their son not finishing a shot properly and they yell : “Jason, are you stupid or what ?”
You can immediately see the body language of that player altering, now he is completely out of the game (not focused), tensed (he uses more muscles then necessary) and he lost strength (the remark of his father “hit” him and made him go weak !)
Does shattered glass bring new opportunities or are they just broken windows attracting more bad luck ?
Can you see who hides beneath that brokenness ? Or are you sticking your head in the sand, being blind to truth ?
Can you see who hides behind the mask ? Or are you just keeping up appearances aswell ?
The difference lies in how we perceive our children, how we treat them and what we “feed” them !
From just one candle, you can light a million candles without putting strain on the first candle. From one awakened being, you can set light into a million souls, so powerful is the light.
If you go into a room full of light, but outside is darkness, and you open the curtain, that darkness won’t come in. But if you go into a room which is dark and you open up a little tiny bit of a curtain, it will fill the whole room with light. Such is the power of the light.
We are this light and we must discover this. Amen.”
Mooji
Whenever you think that darkness stands at your doorstep, remember that you are light ! No matter what you are experiencing right now : darkness isn’t your master. You are. Your awareness, your “I AM”, is master.
Victory is for the ones who kindle the light within and consciously walk the middle way. They say : “try me, tempt me but you are never going to get me !”
Imagine you are walking straight forward, at a gentle pace. While you continue your path, there are distractions on the left and on the right, you get distracted by people who you eighter love or hate.
On one side you have the things you love and desire, on the other one you have the things you are fearful of or that you try to avoid.
Both sides can be throwing lines at you, trying to hook on to you. People you love can try to hook you back on safe ground ! They believe you are going to drown in these deep unsafe waters.
People who despice you can try to pull you down, making you feel not worthy of advancing your chosen course.
People can throw all kinds of dirty things at you. Buckets full of nasty shit. Some shout : “Hey silly you, where do you think you are going ? Everyone is going that way ! Can’t you see you are all by yourself ?” They try to pull you in another direction.
And then – as if things aren’t worse enough – your unfinished businesses are at your heels trying to make you stumble !
You now experience a lot of resistance moving forward, every step you take, turns out to be heavy as hell and extremely painful ! You get stuck in the mud, you feel that a quicksand is about to swallow you completely .
“Ego says : “Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.” Spirit says : “Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.”
All these doubts and fears you keep carrying, are slowing your process. When you become conscious of what is really happening you say “Enough drama ! Stop ! You turn around and you start cutting wires and cut these unneccessary lines loose !
Once you let go of things that slow you down, you discover your own powers again. You realize you have been given your power away, to your own conflicting thoughts and all other illusions you have been believing in.
Whenever doubt crept in I turned to spirit :
“But what if I am alone ?” I asked.
Spirit answered : “you are never alone”.
“But what if I’m not capable ?”
“You are powerful”, spirit said.
“But I am afraid !” I shouted !
and spirit answered :
“How can you be afraid of the dark
when you yourself are light ?”
God is not the punitive one, always reproaching us for our shortcomings. Love knows no scale of above or below. We cannot expect God to come down to our level ; rather, we need to make efforts to rise higher and higher till we reach divine consciousness where divine love fills us and where we become partners with God in the universal plan of Truth, Simplicity and Love.
Yes, blogging is challenging ! Not because of the lack of inspiration, there’s plenty of that ! I am often inspired by daily life, the ponderings of my mind or the many inspirational reads from fellow bloggers !
The challenging part is the disturbance around me, just when I am in the middle of my “writer’s trance” !
Challenge n°1 is a teenager and soccer player, constantly craving for food. “Mom, what are we eating ?” “Mom, I am hungry, can you prepare me a snack ?”
“Just a minute son !”
“Mom ?”
“Bear with me son !”
Half an hour later he’s obliged to ask the same questions again, making me feel a distracted mother neglecting my child’s primal needs…I stumble to the kitchen…
Challenge n°2 are other beings in the house who use other, advanced methods of attracting my attention when they are hungry…Cats !
Although James looks an innocent and devoted cat, he’s very convincing and stubborn but predictable in his actions ! He often seems a child throwing up a tantrum. When he’s in hungry mode I have to watch every step I take, he always aims at my legs, preventing me from going out of the kitchen !
Or he violently jumps on the table, unable to control his landing ! He lost his sense of equilibrium, after his tail got amputated (due to an injury). Now he has no brakes at all and my laptop usually means “bulls eye” !
Complete mindfulness in seconds ! (Try that yourself !) He drops unconscious on my keyboard ! Playing dead !
What follows seems to be a discussion between my puberal son and me !
“James, get off my computer !” “No mom !”
“James, mom needs to work !” “Who cares mom !”
“James, I am going to pick you up !” “Not funny, mom !”
There is only one way to get rid of him : pushing him gently by his butt off the computer, shoving him to the left of my keyboard.
One moment of distraction, a sip from my cup of coffee is enough to get him plotting against me again ! There’s his head back on my keyboard, followed by his paws, all stretched out, ready to take a nap!
His favorite occupations on my laptop : asking help from windows, putting on his favorite music on Foobar or complete shutdown !
I once thought I was hallucinating when I found my screen completely turned upside down. (You can press and hold the Ctrl and Alt keys while pressing left, right, up, down to rotate the screen in a different direction, little did I know !) Allthough it inspired me to use upon my colleagues on april fools’ day !
My fingers are barely allowed to touch the mouse. In my cats’ attempts to draw my hand off it, they often start writing their own language : 54ùopùm4l4i48ù or µµµµµµµµµµµµµµ
If you happen to read a message like this, I was probably hijacked by one of the cats who prevented me from blogging ! Here is the proof !
“Imagine a rosebud with its petals closedover a glowing heart, filled with passionate feelings, but not yet showing itself in its full beauty, not until the blossom opens. It remains closed by doubt. How does self-doubt affect your life? Do you express your feelings openly, or do you hide, like the heart in the rosebud?”
Dan Millman
Our greatest talents might be living in our shadowside. In the things we don’t accept or don’t believe to be true. In the things we are fearful of, in the things that make us shy away…
Maybe it might be a talent that you have been hiding from others, afraid of openly showing, because people might laugh at you, judge you or point fingers at you… but it is still slumbering…
It might be something that looks so fearful that you are afraid to look at it ! Every time it crosses your mind it reminds you of past failure or hurt, or you get a feeling of : “It was never meant to be !” You say : “No, go away, leave me alone !” But it is still lurking…
We ignore these parts. We try to hide them so no one can see them and then it becomes fear, guilt, shame ! But the feelings keep growing…
“More light and light, more dark and dark our woes”
Romeo, Romeo & Juliet, Shakespeare
I guess that Shakespeare was an HSP too ! In my darkest moments I have often wished I wasn’t born that sensitive, feeling everything that deeply. It made my life at times a roller coaster of many ups & downs. As an HSP you often have the impression that you are constantly chased by the dark, not capable of spreading your own light.
What you have to realize is that you came into this world with great intuitive powers, but “With great power comes great responsability” , isn’t ?
What bothers you most as highly sensitive person, can become your biggest asset, but you must “turn around” first to develop your super powers !
Turnaround from sympathy to empathy
Because of your sensitive nature you often absorb the energy of other people, you are an emotional sponge sucking in all their negative energy ! Shield yourself from all psychic attacks. Protect your energy ! Read more : Psychic protection
Ground yourself and do some physcial exercices to get rid of excessive energies.
Turnaround from ‘thinking from the head’ to ‘thinking from the heart’
Your greatest power lies in the wisdom of the heart, but the heart often speaks a language we have forgotten. Read more : Creative living
Your actions will be more productive when they match the intentions of the heart. That’s when your actions become transformative and have the power to instigate others positively !
Are you really thinking your own thoughts ? It is important to know which energy is yours. Whatever seems to cross your mind, be conscious of it and ask yourself : “Where did that come from ?” What is its source : Love or fear ?” Focus on what matters !
Turnaround from weakness to strength
When you are around people, does “the presence” (the energy) make you go weak or make you go strong ?
Pauze a few seconds before you react. Imagine yourself being in the center of an eight, the infinity symbol. the left side of the eight is the stimulus, the right side is the response.
You are in the middle and you start circling love into the eight. Just let a bright light circulate into both circles from where you are standing, from this zero point.
This eight can be a quick reminder to build in a pauze before you speak and to not react from an unbalanced state, a negative emotional state such as fear, anger or frustration.
It is also a good visualization exercice when you want to send loving energy to a person or situation that needs healing or that is bothering you. Imagine yourself being in the right circle and the person that needs healing being in the left one. Each time you pass the middle, more healing light is brought into both circles !
Turnaround from self-criticism to self-love
Stop all self-criticism and judgment and start accepting yourself with all your flaws and imperfections ! Turn around statements such as :”I am not enough, I am not capable, I am not worth it” Love is the absence of judgment
Turnaround from ‘shying away’ to ‘opening up’
Open up ! Let go of all these doubts and fears, they only make you close your heart even further. You can only show your full beauty, when you put off your mask and give expression to your true feelings !
Share your feelings and ideas in an honest way and inspire others to do the same. Use your words to uplift people instead of breaking them down.
“Be like a rose, though it is silent, it speaks in the language of fragrance.”
Babaji
“Turn around and I will show you something Turn around and you will see Life is a roundabout A kind of LSD Turn around, have faith in all the changes Turn around and you will feel No age of loneliness You are a part of me”
Phuro! 