#Confide in me !

Raising awareness for mental health ! We can beat the monsters !

First of all I want to thank follower/friend/blogger Krafting Thoughts for helping me raise awareness for my cause ! Wow I am grateful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ! I am looking forward to see your writings on this topic and will reblog them here !

The reason why I became a life and mental coach is because people always tell me their story, even strangers !

Some tell me their deepest secrets. I don’t even have to ask them these things, I seem to invite them unwittingly, unknowingly to open up their heart and to let their truth come out….

The other reason why I became a life and mental coach is because I want to encourage people to come out of their box mentality. We are always labeling ourselves and others and we are always identifying ourselves with our diseases.

We put children in a box at an early age. Diagnozed with ADHD and ADD, we give them drugs to “control their condition”.

Even kids who are HSP are considered dysfunctional and are hardly understood by their environment. I happen to be higly sensitive and my child inherited it aswell but we never saw it as a condition. It is just part of who we are !

I want to share our personal story today to prove that our boxes are imaginary boxes, in most cases, unnecessary kept alive by our ignorance, our resistance to truth and maybe our fear of alternative healing methods.

A big part of my mission lies in raising awareness for this, to speak up for our children and to offer them tools to empower themselves and make them resilient to life’s challenges without drugs !

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When my son was 8 he was experiencing some problems at school. His teacher told me he often looked absent, he dreamed away instead of keeping up with the lessons, he even skipped whole exercices on his tests or left whole pages blank. When she confronted him with that, he didn’t know what to say.

One day when he slipped in dream mode in class again, the teacher confronted me. Wasn’t it about time I considered seeing a doctor and give him medication ?

I was surprised, I was even perplexed to hear this. I have never been fond of pharmaceuticals and I barely have them in the house. My doctor knows I am very hesitant towards them and I only take them in case of emergency !

A colleague of mine told me her horror story of her experiences with a daughter on ritalin, I was in contact with a pharmacist who had worked in a mental institution for years; this man, – now retired – warned me how addictive all these drugs are and how they are destructive to a little child’s brain. Not to mention the need to increase doses on a regular basis. I wasn’t considering this option at all !

I started some research on my own to find alternative methods to help my son. I kept him home from school one day and told his teacher I was going to see a psychologist, I drove to my natural health therapist instead and had my son tested.

He informed us we had to cut the sugars in his diet, also the hidden sugars in the food. He told us he was intolerant to wheat so we switched to spelt instead.

We reduced time spend on television and gaming. He wasn’t allowed any device in his room while he slept and we switched the wifi off at night.

We went to see an osteopathic physician, apparently he had a craniocerebral birth trauma, she even pointed it out to me so I could see for myself how “out of alignement” he was. She exclaimed : “No wonder he has difficulties concentrating !”

Other spine issues that block the cerebrospinal fluid can cause headaches and migraines. Children are often benefited with craniosacral therapy. You can find an interesting link here.

After two weeks the school contacted me, saying the teachers were happy I decided to give my son the proper medication. I left them perplexed when I told them he had never swallowed a pill !

Proudly I emailed them a whole essay, asking them to take all these tips in consideration to help other parents. It worked well, our osteopathic told me she had a boost of children in her practise…

If you like to spread awareness for my case, have a personal story to tell about your issues, or you have other useful tips or information for children and adults, please do share them while using the hashtag #confideinme in your blog or put a link to your blog in the comments.

Do not go back to black, paint beautiful colors instead !

Phuro! Be inspired!

 

Sexual revolution

I guess you can call this blog “This is Belgium, part II”. Let us find out if our inhabitants are prudish or progressive when it comes to sex…

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Can we shout “I love my vagina” openly in Belgium ? Yes we can and I am holding Goedele Liekens responsable for it ! Goedele Liekens won the Miss Belgium competition in 1986. She is a psychologist and sexologist and has written several books on sexual education. Her most famous one is “The vagina book”.

She was the first woman I remember using openly and publicly on television words such as erections and orgasms ! She then spread her legacy even further and became famous in the Netherlands and in Great Britain aswell, presenting “Sex in class” on channel 4.

I owe her my deepest respect ! As a United Nations Population Fund Goodwill Ambassador she faced African tribe members who still impose genital mutilation on women. Watching that on television, I felt scared in her place !

She definitely is a strong and passionate woman and she is often in for a joke aswell.

So when it comes to sex, you can ask a Belgian almost anything….we had a great teacher, we have our own sex guru !

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A few days ago we were presented a new female journalist on television ! 59-year-old journalist Van Spilbeeck, decided to switch gender and had suddenly methamorphozed himself into a stunning woman. Boudewijn turned into Bo. She was the talk of the town for a few days !

He seemed a gentleman to me but I admit she really looks amazing as a woman. She seems happy and isn’t that what it’s all about ?

Ohh and we definetely lost all prudishness last year with a short TV series called “the Callboys”. You have to watch the trailer below !

Funny note to end this blog with : My son came home from school today. He started chuckling and said : “Mom, something funny happened at school this morning ! There was a mom at the schoolyard who became angry at someone, so she grabbed a blue dildo out of her bag and threw it at a girl’s head !”

I guess that Randy was her favorite 🙂 Yes, this is Belgium !

Phuro! Be inspired!

 

Curiosity kills the cat

“Catwomen are not contained by the rules of society. You follow your own desires. This is both a blessing and a curse. You will often be alone and misunderstood, but you will experience a freedom other women will never know.”

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They say curiosity kills the cat. Bullshit !

A cat will always be a cat, wild and free, always desiring to be independent. It’s in its nature !

Curiosity doesn’t kill the cat. Captivity kills curiosity, imprisonment kills the cat !

If you take away a cat’s essence, their spirit gets broken. Just as with people.

There are millions of broken people, experiencing pain because they are going against their grain.

Their light has been dimmed by society. Society shuts down people who are different, who color outside the lines.

At an early age, children get all these labels, ADD or ADHD,…all we are doing is killing their curiosity and creativity !

We all are striving for society’s perfection, we have to perform and show results because only then we feel validated or appreciated !

We let people decide what’s best for us. Maybe your father said : “Why can’t you do something decent with your life like Mary ? Maybe your mom said :” My child, that is absolutely nothing for you, that is way too dangerous, what if…”

What if I constantly tell people “yes”, when I really feel the need to say “no” ?

What if I stay in an unfulfilling job, choosing “security” but I burried my dreams and my heart’s desires ?

What if I stayed in a bad relationship because I told myself I wasn’t worth any better ?

What if I am in pain because society is pushing me in some kind of direction without me being aware of it ? A direction that is not mine…

I would become unrecognazible to myself, a stranger to myself !

What if you feel deep down in your core, that the way the world goes isn’t that natural after all ?

What if you are sane in an insane world and you just keep blaming yourself for not being who you really are ?

“You are a Catwoman. Every sight, every smell, every sound, incredibly heightened. Fierce independence, total confidence, inhuman reflexes. You spent a lifetime caged, by accepting who you are, all of who you are, you can be free, and freedom is power.”

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Phuro! Be inspired!

 

Celebrate

Maddie the coonhound is a celebrity ! Her pictures remind me of precious moments of laughter and joy, that’s why I like using her pictures so much ! Isn’t she bringing a smile on your face with her innocent looks ? She is funny and at times hilarious ! She really seems to enjoy being in the picture…

How about you ? Is it time for you to shine ? To be in the picture ? To celebrate life and have some fun ? To bring the joy back ?

Here are some tips that might be coming from Maddie the coonhound herself :

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Stay in the present !

Dogs live only in the present, ‘in the moment’. Living in the moment means dogs are only concerned with what’s happening to them right now, not what happened to them last week or what’s going to happen next tuesday. It’s a very simple, instinctual way to live and it’s part of what keeps dogs connected to nature.

“As humans, we experience time differently than dogs do. We’re constantly aware not only of the present, but of past and future. For many of us, that’s where feelings like shame, guilt or regret (past) and fear or anxiety (future) arise.” Cesar Milan. Read more : Dog whisperer or human whisperer ?

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Smile and focus on the positive !

Start your day with a smile ! Turn your face to the sun and eat your vitamin C ! Watch out for lemons though…I see a lot of people who seem to have eaten tons of them for breakfast !

Start the day, stating beautiful things about yourself. Look in the mirror and smile at yourself. Have a positive outlook and positive expectations ! Decide to focus on beauty today ! Remember : Beauty is in the eye of the beholder !

Do you know the feeling of coming home to a dog wagging his tail, happy to see you ? Dogs greet their people joyfully !

Dogs don’t whine about their day, they are not judging or blaming you for being cranky the whole evening. They are just there, in front of you, happy to see you ! Happy to snuggle up against you and to have their cuddle buddy back !

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Shake things off !

Play and loosen up ! Go outside in nature to shake things off ! Nature provides everything for us. Take a good look around you and take some deep breaths of fresh air ! The trees around you can assist in letting go of all your worries of the day ! Let the wind carry your troubles away…

Dance and celebrate your existence ! Do some yoga exercices !

Don’t forget to relax regularly and to take some good naps !

Phuro! Be inspired!

 

More inspiration with Maddie :

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Maddie is patient ! Maybe she is at point of critical mass ? Read more : critical mass
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Maddie wears the golden crown. Maybe you are close to it too. So don’t quit ! Read more : Don’t quit !

 

Show your true colors !

“The white light of Spirit is poured upon you, and your idea of limitation, in a given direction makes you opaque to some of its colors.”

I feel drawn to the color blue lately. Not that I am feeling blue, on the contrary, it explains the need to speak my truth and the desire to genuinely express myself. To be ME.

Various shades of blue appear in the aura of devoted and compassionate souls, they are known for their good nature and honesty. I guess that’s the reason why it is impossible for me to tell a lie !

Being a highly sensative person, it hasn’t always been easy to show the world my true colors, I had to dig deep because my magic had been burried underground, underneath all these limiting beliefs, making the surface look dead and grey, making growth barely impossible !

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We have 7 energy centers in our bodies called chakras. Five of them correspond with the outer senses, two are our inner powers, corresponding with intuition and divine wisdom.

These inner traits are definitely more present in highly sensitive people. These are the gifts they need to develop and explore further instead of hiding them from other people.

When our energy centers are blocked by negative emotions (darkness or “the 7 deadly sins”), the divine light or life force can’t flow through them and then we must “clean” or free each center of these blockages. Each one has its corresponding color, related to an organ and emotion…Read more here : Journey of the soul

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As our inner life changes, so do the colors in our aura change.

The aura around the body looks like an egg-shaped cloud, and is twice as long and four times as wide as the physical body.

Some colors can be permanently present, because they represent certain qualities or traits of character of ours.

Some colors may change according to our stage of spiritual development or current level of consciousness.

Most of us display a mixture of colors and shapes. The colors also change according to our emotions : all our emotions & feelings are displayed in our aura and all our other soul-experiences aswell.

Especially experiences where strong emotions were (are) involved leave a deep imprint on the aura.

Our energetic field will emanate the color corresponding to the emotion that is the most dominant at the moment !

We are constantly picking up each other’s vibration, we constantly interfere with each other. When we don’t protect our energy field, other people can penetrate it.

When our energy field is open, people can pierce through our aura and trigger in us a responsive vibration already (latent) present within us, a feeling such as fear or hate.

The aura can appear misty and cloudy, grey and pale or have dark spots and stripes in it. It can have irregular shapes.

People who seem to be radiating, in whose presence you feel good, usually have a large aura, with bright colors !

Like attracts like so similar colors will attract each other, enhancing and strengthening each other : two lovers kissing, two strangers smiling at each other, people cooperating peacefully,…

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Don’t be afraid to let them show
Your true colors
True colors are beautiful
Like a rainbow

Phuro! Be inspired!

This is Belgium !

Mr. Trump called our capital “a hellhole”. He doesn’t have to apologize for what he said, maybe he was confused because our national soccer team is called ‘the Red Devils’. But I’m not here to talk about Belgian politics !

The only thing I can mention is that our prime minister reminds me of Mr. Potatohead, our minister responsable for healthcare looks like she has never heard of a diet before (allthough she is a doctor herself) and our minister of agriculture and nature said (and I will literally quote her here) : “The only function of a tree is to be cut.”

Enough said, let us skip this political crap 🙂

Of course everyone knows we are famous for our food : wafles, beer, french fries and chocolate ! We had some famous inventors aswell. Adolphe Sax for example who invented the saxophone. And did you know a Belgian man (Robert Cailliau) co-invented the internet ? Belgium connects people !

But that’s still not what I wanted to talk about today. I am proud to be Belgian because of our exquisite music scene ! New beat, techno, trance, acid,…Name it, we got it ! From “Bonzai” to “Dimitri Vegas and Like Mike”, we can offer you “the crème de la crème” !

It’s impossible to present them all here, but I have listed some of my favorites ! Are you ready ? Here we go !

“Millionaire”

Millionaire is my all time favorite ! The band has surprising songs, with many twists and turns. Their music often takes me to another dimension. I adore Tim ! I think he is a genius and he is definitely a muse to me !

I was on a low in life, questionning and doubting myself, when after 12 years of silence they were back with a brand new song. Their comeback made me joyful and reminded me I still was “on track”. Millionaire has always been there, not only in my music library but also in my heart !

 

“Coely”

Here is some authentic girl power ! Coely has definitely stolen the hearts of her fans with her soulful voice, her strong presence and adorable kindness. New in our music scene but winning award after award, Coely is about to conquer the world !

Coely’s DJ Tim happens to be a friend of ours, who regularly came to visit us at the time he was still going to college. He was already passionately involved in making music back then and we always knew he was destined to become famous one day ! He also performs solo under the name “Ephonk” !

 

“Tamino”

People call him Belgian’s Jeff Buckely. He won a talent show on Studio Brussels and became rapidly known because of his breathtaking voice. His father is Egyptian, his mother is Belgian. His grandfather is a famous singer in Egypt aswell. Tamino has the ability to strike a core in people on a deep level ! I know for sure his song “Habibi” will leave you speechless or make you end up having goose bumps all over your body !

 

“Charlotte De Witte”

Formerly known under the artist name “Raving George” (she wanted to hide that she was a girl so that people wouldn’t have prejudices ) she later on decided to continue her DJ career under her own girl’s name Charlotte De Witte.

She uses a lot of great classics from the Belgian techno scene in her performances, allthough the song “You’re mine” together with the talented Max Colombie from Oscar and the wolf, might be her most famous one.

 

Do you have favorites from our Belgian music scene ? Let me know ! Maybe I feel inspired to write a part two to this blog !

Phuro! Be inspired!

The Liebster Award 2018

I have been nominated for the Liebster Award 2018 by Krafting Thoughts, you can find her inspiring blog here : Krafting Thoughts. Thanks again for this honor and appreciation !

The Liebster Award helps bloggers and writers connect with more inspirational people and offers them the ability to share their blogs with a bigger audience.

Whether you are here to inform, to inspire, or just to share your writings with other people, I am often struck by the purity, the rawness, and the beauty of all your stories.

These were the questions I received from Krafting Thoughts :

1. If given a chance to choose between a solo trip or a family trip, what would you like to choose? Why ?

We just talked about it earlier, we dream of taking a family trip to India. My son, my fiancé and me, accompagnied by my neighbours, a Sikh family of 4 members.

I know in advance it would be a fascinating trip. I know we would take care of each other and we would be each other’s guides. I think the adventures of our trip could be worth a movie script ! It would at least make life time memories !

My son has been spending so much time with our neighbours (he grew up with their youngest son) that Mr. Singh decided to name him Keith Singh. We gave their eldest son the nickname “Boom Boom Swami” because he is so into hiphop !

I am inspired by Haidakhan Babaji, an Indian guru whose universal message of truth, love and simplicity, is the red thread throughout my blogging, but I have never been able to visit the country he lived in.

In summer while I’m in my garden, I close my eyes and I already feel catapultated to India, I smell Mrs Varinder’s cooking, hear Indian music playing, it doesn’t take long to feel immersed in the Indian culture. It is as Babaji is whispering “you don’t have to come to India to be part of me, you are already part of me wherever you are.”

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2. Whether you prefer dusk or dawn ? Why ?

I’m drawn to that deep blue of the twilight zone, I am attracted to both dusk and dawn. Recently while I was scrolling through my pictures on Pinterest, it struck me that almost three quarters of my pictures were blue-ish. https://www.pinterest.com/phuro1008/blue-inspiration/

I also like the quietness they both share. Before the night falls, everything is silencing itself to sleep. Then in the morning at dawn, when the sun is about to arise, the silence of the night gradually makes room for the anima of a brand new day.

If I had to choose I would be grateful to wake up to another new day.

3. Which is that one characteristic within you which is completely different from your current personality ?

People see me as a balanced individual : reasonable, responsable and always in control. They know that I’m a coach working around topics such as mental strength, emotional resilience and personal growth. Most of them think I am a very down to earth person.

As soon as I use the word “spiritual”, they look amazed, scan me from top to toe and say : “Oooh you are such a type.” I often lose them when I tell them that in order to go full option in life, they have to explore the spiritual world and take the whole in consideration. I wish I could be more “hootless” when it comes to expressing my spirituality.

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4. What is that one moment of your life you wish to live again, but had severe doubts about its comeback ?

Sometimes we have to endure a lot of shit in life, sometimes we even hit rock bottom, but we always have the ability to rise above it. I realised I had to change myself when I lost the sparkle in my eyes, I wasn’t in awe with myself anymore and nothing around me could amaze me anymore or even stur up my emotions. My inner critic had dulled that sparkle. I lost the zest for life and my desire to give meaning to it, to give it my personal touch. Being highly sensitive I felt I lived burried under other people’s junk for years. Now that I am awake I won’t let my eyes be stopped from smiling again.

5. If you are given a piece of land to build a building, what kind of building will you prefer to get constructed ? 

I have a dream that makes me exuberant of joy everytime I think of it. I see myself living in an elegant white house, where many friends come to visit me. Each time I imagine myself on that property I find myself talking to the trees, the flowers, the birds..and each time I whisper “I love you” the house is smiling back. It feels like the house is asking me to be its owner so I can take care of it.

6. Do you prefer foggy-sky-and-snow-filled-mountains or clear-sky-and-green-mountains ? Why ?

It is always difficult to choose between nature’s wonders, both views have their charm but I prefer a clear sky and the myriad of colors nature shows off on a sunny day. Being able to feel the warmth of the sun, walking bare feet in the sand, lying in the grass watching clouds passing by…

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7. When is that one time when you fell down, but adamantly stood up ? Think & share.

That was after a shocking divorce only weeks following the birth of my son. At times I could barely remember I was breastfeeding my son, sometimes I was in tears, sometimes I felt completely numb, I was feeling miserably low ! Luckily there was a little being I loved that needed my care and attention, who was entitled to have a happy mom and to see happy faces around and that made it all worthwile to climb back up !

8. What is that one social issue which needs to be talked about, but not got enough attention yet ? (Try to give us a new perspective at the issue)

I’m surprised to see how many youngsters are on anti-depressants, I am digusted to see what a cocktail of drugs kids are given on a daily basis. In many cases doses are increased to such a level it starts destroying neurons in the brain. If we could give children the proper attention and support and give them tools that strengthen them, we would make them more resilient in life, without a life time addiction to drugs. As long as we are paralyzing ourselves and numbing ourselves down with meds we are unable to see what is happening with us and with our kids aswell…It takes courage to admit that we feel bad because we are going against our grain, it takes courage to express ourselves genuinely and to take our power back.

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9. Lastly, share some random well-known 5 facts about yourself, that create a puzzle into the reader’s mind regarding your personality. (Specify those facts that are generally known to people near you, but writing them here creates a confusion into reader’s mind regarding your personality-)

What makes people open up around me or what makes them shy away…according to friends…

“We use her for scanning the environnement, whether a pub is safe or not. She can change vicious dogs in submissive pups. At times she still needs to learn to control her powers. We call her Storm, we can feel it when she is up to something…”

“She is a pitbull, too much power compressed in a small body, never letting go of her bone and unstoppable. Can act mean when cornered. Excellent behaviour around other animals and children.”

“You can’t hide your deepest secrets from her, you just simply spit them out in her presence. She doesn’t use force to get hem out of you…it feels like you are unable to tell her lies. When you fake things she gets in your head and tells you what you are thinking.”

“She speaks in images, thinks in feelings. Dopes herself with music.”

“She liked mysteries so much that she became one.”

Here are my nominees for the Liebster Award 2018 : 

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Esther heeft er een heel mooi Nederlands stuk van gemaakt ! Laten we de Liebster award ook volop in Nederland en België rondgaan. Ook zij heeft inspirerende mensen genomineerd. Ik ben benieuwd naar hun stukjes ! Je vind de antwoorden van Esther hier : http://www.heyesther.nl/liebster-award/

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You can read Rudra’s answers here : https://whimsicalblogfeed.wordpress.com/2018/02/10/liebster-award-nomination/

Thanks for the inspiration !

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You all are precious pearls ! I have nominated you because you are sharing the positivity and I can’t wait to read or hear more of you ! Thank you for inspiring us !

Here are the questions for my nominees :

1. Write your own version of psalm 23

2. If you would write a script of your life and make a movie of it, what genre will I get to see ?

3. When were you in awe for the last time ? Why ?

4. Post a song or music video that triggered you emotionally.

5. If countries didn’t exist and space travel would be possible, what would appear on your universal ID so other beings would know who you are ?

6. Is there a message you want to share before you leave this world or is there a legacy you would like to leave behind ?

7. If you would have a remote control for your life, would you use it to pauze, rewind or fast forward things in life ? What would you change ?

Have fun with these questions !

You can read more about the Liebster award here : The Liebster Award 2018

Phuro! Be inspired!

Wiena

 

 

Things to ponder…

When I was young, Pinky and the Brain was one of my favorite cartoons. In case you aren’t familiar with it, it’s about two mice : Brain, a gruf, intelligent mouse always plodding and planning to conquer the world – kind of an evil nutty professor – and Pinky, a tall clumsy mouse with a funny British accent.

And then there was that phrase of Brain that returned in every episode : “Pinky, are you pondering what I am pondering ?” Followed by Pinky saying something hilariously stupid !

Pondering…the word has a lot of synonyms ; overthinking, contemplating, reflecting on things, chewing on things… Coming out of a mouse’s mouth, it was adorable and cute but it hasn’t always an innocent meaning…

Pondering can become plotting when dark thoughts are involved, when evil is stirred into the mixture, adding fuel to the fire !  Once these thoughts have instigated us and the emotions are running riot in our bodies, it is difficult to control them, they are all sticking together like glue ! We can choose to hide them, we can choose to let go of them, or we can choose to give expression to them !

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All this starts within, inside ourselves. First we leave this world behind while pondering… we wander ourselves into a slumber state, between being awake and dreaming, a place where we can effortlessly feel ourselves being anything…Then we turn outwards, to our waking state where we can start to give expression to that vision of ours…

Pondering is powerful. Pondering multiplied by passion becomes creative imagination ! When we feel inspired, there’s a fire instigated within and it desires to express itself through art, writing, music, being creative, healing,… It urges us to do something and starts our creative processes.

What kind of projects do you like to give birth to ? What kind of message do you want people to hear ? What kind of person do you want to be ? What will your legacy be ?

Are you pondering what am I pondering ?

Phuro! Be inspired!

 

 

Wolf and woman

“Some days I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologizing for my wild.”

Nikita Gill

Don’t you at times want to howl like a wolf under the full moon, eyes shut and head thrown back, pouring your heart out, crying, mourning, letting out all your pain and loneliness ? Expressing yourself loudly and freely ?

Native Americans said that when the wolf howled he created wind. If he continued to howl fog came. They considered the moon its power alley.

Throughout history and culture powerful archetypal women and goddesses were depicted accompagnied by wolves, as it represented freedom, courageousness and fierceness.

Women who trusted their intuition, their inner intelligence were often seen as witches by patriarchal society or portreyed as the seductive ones or the evil ones. Associated with the moon, the wolf became the symbol of darkness, temptation and danger. At a deep level, women still carry the pain of being prosecuted by patriarchy for their innate wisdom and power they were forced to hide.

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Learning to howl requires that we tap into the deepest recesses of our soul, and that takes courage because what lies that deep is not always pretty or sweet smelling. Else it might as well be out in the open…

Discovering the wolf inside :

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A wolf woman is courageous and dares to speak her truth. Allthough this woman often walks a lonely path, often covered with challenges, she has learned how to use and trust her intuition. She has embraced her shadowside and she has managed to walk through the dark with an extreme confidence in herself.

Opportunity

A wolf woman is a trailblazer. Instead of following someone else’s footsteps, she creates a path of her own. She has a laser focus on what she wants and she recognizes the signs along her way that create opportunities for herself.

Love

A wolf woman has conquered her fears and has chosen love to be her guiding force. She is a nurturing mother and protects the vulnerable. She knows love is the garment of her true naked self.

Freedom

A wolf woman has found her way out of the maze. She has gone beyond the roles she occupies in life and the identities she took on along the way. She knows these are only masks, cover ups for who she really is. She is a passionate expression of who she genuinely desires to be.

Are you being true to your authentic self ? Do you have the freedom to do what you want in life ? Is there room to be you ?

Bring some WOLF back in your life ! Phuro! Be inspired!

In an interview with Pi-Pôle, Max Colombie revealed the meaning behind his band’s name: “Oscar is a name I really like – it’s poetic and light. And wolf is the dark animal that comes out at night and howls to the full moon, and moon stands for solitude and coldness. It’s bright and dark together, because that’s how I see my music – as a balance between light and dark.”

 

Just be you…

Our self-esteem isn’t always based on self worth but often on the approval of others or on personal success in life. We want to be liked, we want to be appreciated, we want to be valued and most of all we want to feel loved.

For some of us, it is extremely difficult to say NO. We are afraid that if we would tell people how we truly feel we would be judged or we would lose the affection of certain people.

Know that when you say no, you just reject a request. You do not reject the person ! Ask yourself : “How can someone know who I am, what I stand for or what I want if I don’t set bounderies, if I can’t stand my own ground, if I can’t say a clear NO ?

 

Do not allow yourself to say yes when it is obvious that you can feel a clear no in every cell of your body Do not make excuses but look the person in the eye when you say it.

We often hide our true feelings, we swallow the bad remarks and the criticism of others, we let hurtful words change our state of being. Unable to digest this negativity, it leaves us nauseous, it can infect and poison our whole system !

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We can feel overwhelmed by all the different energies emanating from friends, colleagues, clients, patients, customers. Whenever we are out of alignement with our true self, it is easier for others to penetrate our energy field and to get us influenced.

If you keep going against your grain, against your own gut feeling, you will continue to bottle up negative emotions and become an explosive barrel of frustration !

People who are focused on pleasing others are depleting their energy and are sacrificing themselves and then one day they become barely recognizable to themselves.

The core of who they are, gets hidden. Infected by dark thoughts and devastating negative self-talk and judgement, that beautiful spark in their eyes fades out and they start looking numb instead, as if life has been sucked out of them. They completely lose their drive !

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When you hold a mirror in front of people and you ask them to tell positive things about themselves, they often shy away, they feel uncomfortable, they get nervous, angry or sad. They don’t know what to say.

They are not used to take responsability for their own well-being and barely put positivity in themselves.

Love is the most important gift you can give yourself ! Stop tormenting yourself and start loving yourself again instead ! Express yourself honestly, without fear of being judged. Just be you !

Phuro! Be inspired!

Away, get away
You’re such a freak
It’s what people say to me
Different, too different
I’m scared of judgement
Your insults and your slanders stick on to me
Yes with your million eyes you’re watching me
You talk behind my back
You spy on me
So I scream and shout to make you leave
But you’re still here, you keep judging me
With your million eyes, eyes!
Drowning I’m drowning in that clown’s mask
To make you laugh at my thousand flaws
Alone when I’m all alone I take my smile off
But your heartless words have left me scars
‘Cause with your million eyes you’re watching me
You talk behind my back
You spy on me
So I scream and shout to make you leave
But you’re still here, you keep judging me
‘Cause with your million eyes you’re watching me
You talk behind my back
You spy on me
So I scream and shout to make you leave
But you’re still here, you keep judging me
With your million eyes, eyes!
‘Cause with your million eyes you’re watching me
You talk behind my back
You spy on me
So I scream and shout to make you leave
But you’re still here
‘Cause with your million eyes you’re watching me
You talk behind my back
You spy on me
So I scream and shout to make you leave
But you’re still here, you keep judging me
‘Cause with your million eyes you’re watching me
You talk behind my back
You spy on me
So I scream and shout to make you leave
But you’re still here, you keep judging me
Songwriters: Luuk Cox / Loic Nottet / Army Morrey
Artist : Loic Nottet

 

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