Life with cats

I can’t imagine life without cats. I got my first one when I was only three years old. It was a black female named “Pussy”. She was my comfort in times of need and I told her all my secrets when I was a child. She left this earthly plane when I was 23 years old.

When I was married I got a call from a friend who found a dumped kitten close to her house. Her dogs were too agressive towards her so she asked me if I would be interested in giving her a nice home. I agreed immediately.

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Years later (and me already divorced), she was very distressed and jealous when she met my boyfriend. While he was sleeping on the couch or was lying next to me in bed, she would strike him on purpose, without my notice ! Useless to say she was worth her name of a vampire slayer ! Even though Buffy stayed small as an adult, she definitely was the terror in town for other cats !

Diva was the second kitten we adopted. She was the one with an attitude ! She was really bossy and she could throw up a tantrum when she didn’t get what she wanted ! But she was very attentive whenever someone felt sick, she would come sitting on our laps and comfort us. She loved giving eskimo kisses too.

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She always came home with presents in the form of leaves, whenever she came in the house, loudly meowing we knew she found a new one. My son collected them all in a shoe box !

Diva gave birth to two lovely kittens june 2011 : Minouche and Modjo (M&M !). They were so adorable that we decided to keep them. Buffy had already passed away. So there we were with three cats in the house.

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We were about to neuter her shortly after she gave birth, only to found out it was too late, she was pregnant again ! She had a huge belly this time and we were all curious how many kittens she was carrying.

She gave birth to these kittens at her usual place, a tiny dark spot under our staircase. Luckily we were all at home when she was in labour.

The kittens came very fast : one…two…number three… a fourth one…and finally a fifth one !

Then my son shouted : “Mom there’s another one !” I thought he was joking ! But there was number six. I felt I was going to faint ! We suddenly had 9 cats in our house !

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When we saw she gave birth to three ginger cats…we immediately had a suspicion who the father could be. We live next to a garden center, where a male ginger greets the clients, sitting on the counter next to the cashier. Everytime I enter the store to buy plants I say hello to “dad” now 🙂

The only male of the three gingers was adopted and went living with my ex-husband, my son was still able to see him in the weekends and named him Garfield. The two ginger female sisters Lulu and Bolleke who stayed home, became inseperatable.

We neutered all cats this time ! We were too anxious to give them up for adoption so we again decided to keep them, one big happy family together !

Sadly enough Diva and Minouche dissapeared, never to come back again, leaving us all devastated, wondering what happened.

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I let the other seven introduce themselves :

Bolleke : “I think I am a dog. I studied the dog’s manners very well so I can apply the same techniques as him to get some extra food. I am an expert in begging and I can annoy everyone when they are eating. I like to stay close to my mom. When I had to undergo surgery and was recovering at home, she slept on the floor next to my bench for two weeks !”

Lulu : “I can talk human very well and I use my voice whenever I need something from my humans. When my humans start petting me, I look like a dj scratching records !”

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Gibbs. “I am the boss of the cat family and the wife’s guardian. Everything goes according to my rules. I don’t allow any strange human male next to my human mom. They need my approval ! I am fascinated by flames and I can watch them for hours. I need my drinks on tap !”

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James : “I am the favorite of Keith, my human brother who I consider my boss. Named after 007,  I am as adventurous as James Bond. I got lost for three weeks during my boss’s exams and got the whole family freaked out. The local police department even spread my missing message on Facebook and my human mom asked help from a shaman in the United States to get me back out of “primal mode” so I could return home safely. I managed to return to my boss’ s bedroom, badly injured (my humans don’t know what caused it). The vet had to amputate my tail and I still have difficulities walking but I am happy to be home again !

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Louise : “I am the last born of six and I was the smallest of the litter. Sometimes I feel an outcast because Gibbs doesn’t like my presence and chases me away. He gets grounded every time my human parents see it happening. I love my human mom very much because she gives me a lot of attention. She calls me “my sweet Louise.” I am the one responsable for giving her “feline paralysis”. I look very much like my birth mom Diva.

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Modjo : “I know I am the only chubby one of the family. I like to withdraw to quiet places to rest and to take long naps, but once I appear you can’t ignore my demands for attention. I love receiving hugs !”

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Hartemie (Sweetheart) : “I was living on the streets for weeks and I was obliged to beg for food. A nice lady with curly hairs brought me some food now and then, but I couldn’t stay home with her. I knew that particular sunny sunday would be my lucky day, I could sense it ! She was having a housewarming party and her niece was there too. After the niece met me and heard my story, she was very touched and emotional and at the end of the evening she decided to take me to my forever home ! She says that I was God sent and that leaving me on the streets would have her heartbroken. The other cats have accepted me as one of theirs. My name is Sweetheart because I have a spot in the form of a heart on my nose. My mom says I am very clever and sweet !

“Time spent with cats is never wasted.”

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Be like a flower !

“The flowers are speaking to us; they are saying, ‘You can only open hearts and souls by spreading light and warmth.’ But who understands them?”

Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov

If you approach the sun consciously, wishing to become like it, you will eventually receive something of its life, its warmth and its light.

And if you want friends, well, you should also know that the sun will teach you the best way to attract them.

Wouldn’t you seek out someone in whose presence you felt more alive, warmer and clearer in yourself ?

On the other hand, you would avoid someone cold, dull and lifeless, or, if you had to spend time with them, you would do everything to protect yourself by closing up in their presence.

Look at flowers: they close at night, while in the day they open up to the sun. Yes, this is a language.

The flowers are speaking to us; they are saying, ‘You can only open hearts and souls by spreading light and warmth.’ But who understands them ?

Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov

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“Be like the flower, turn your face to the sun.”

Kahlil Gibran

 

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No strings attached

When someone has a request or asks you a question, you can feel whether they are trying to control you, pulling you in a certain direction or whether they are leaving you free to decide what to do.

Someone can make you an offer and say : “No strings attached”. If there are no strings attached to an offer or an arrangement, there is nothing that is unpleasant that you have to accept. You don’t feel duped or trapped. 

How often do you feel trapped or chained in a relationship ? Suffocated, unable to breathe ? How often do you feel that “your hands are tied” or that someone else is pulling the strings ?

All these expressions may refer to attachment cords. Most people consider this figurative language but on the subtle plane these cords do exist !

Toxic relationships are kept alive by astral cords. Because of these strings we can feel stuck in our lives !

People constantly nagging at each other, verbal or physical abuse, blame and shame or humiliation…

A lot of negative energy (even from the past) runs through these cords, between these persons, flowing in and out of their aura.

Even when someone has died, the energy patterns in these strings can still remain active or triggered !

Letting go of the death of a loved one doesn’t mean you no longer love that person, it means that you still cherish all the good things but you allow each other to continue your journey.

These cords aren’t limited to people eighter. These cords can exist between you and your personal belongings, certain objects or places.

They can exist between you and your house, your car, animals and plants…

You can be tied to thought patterns, (religious) beliefs, ideas and desires.

You can be absorbed by ideals of certain groupes or organizations.

How can you break free ?

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Do not allow others to penetrate your energy field or to dominate your space. Learn to protect yourself and keep your energy free. “Breaking free” requires a lot of conscious attention and emotional detachement !

Visualization exercises

Going back to a positive experience or creating a new one !

Can you remember a time when you faced your fears, when you acted courageous and fearless ? Go into the emotions of that moment, feel that strength and power again, see how other people responded to your courage, your guts and determination ! Try to apply this in your daily life again !

Balloon Technique
A simple technique is to visualize that you are surrounded by a bright light bulb or in a bright balloon. Zip it from bottom to top, seal it completely ! This way you protect yourself from all negativity, but you still allow the good to come to you. When this technique becomes a habit before you greet other people or when you move yourself into a crowd, it will keep you free from attacks from the outside.

 

“Fogging”

When others or mean to you, humiliate you, do not react but remain calm. Imagine that there’s a fog coming up, seperating you from your agressors, a veil seperates you from those vicious words coming to you. They are absorbed before they can hit you. Nothing can touch you !
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“Energetic divorce” Tapping exercise from Jen Ward (www.jenuinehealing.com)

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Empower yourself with this simple but powerful protocol !

You can do this exercise regarding every person in your life. Untangle yourself from a family member, a co-worker, your boss or friend. Free yourself from the energy of an ex-husband, a vicious client, or a sick patient. You may even want to do this protocol with every organization or idea that has held you back…

(Say each statement 3 times out loud while CONTINUOUSLY tapping on the top of your head at the crown chakra and say it a fourth time while tapping on your chest at the heart chakra)

“I release being with ___________ out of habit; in all moments”
“I release feeling dependent on ____________; in all moments”
“I release feeling beholden to ___________ ; in all moments”
“I release being enslaved to ___________; in all moments”
“I recant all vows and agreements between myself and __________; in all moments”
“I remove all curses between myself and __________; in all moments”
“I sever all strings and cords between myself and __________; in all moments”
“I dissolve all karmic ties between myself and __________; in all moments”
“I remove all the pain, burden, limitations and engrams that _________ has put on me; in all moments”
“I remove all the pain, burden, limitations and engrams that I have put on ___________; in all moments”
“I take back all the Joy, Love, Abundance, Freedom, Health, Success, Security, Companionship, Creativity, Peace, Life, Wholeness, Beauty, Enthusiasm, Contentment, Spirituality, Enlightenment and Confidence that ____________ has taken from me; in all moments”
“I give back all that I have taken from ____________; in all moments”
“I withdraw all my energy from ____________’: in all moments”
“I release resonating with ______________; in all moments”
“I release emanating with ______________; in all moments”
“I remove all of _____________ from my sound frequency; in all moments”
“I remove all of _____________ from my light body; in all moments”
“I shift my paradigm from __________ to Joy, Love, Abundance, Freedom, Health, Success, Security, Companionship, Creativity, Peace, Life, Wholeness, Beauty, Enthusiasm, Contentment, Spirituality, Enlightenment and Confidence; in all moments”
“I strip all illusion off of ___________; in all moments”
“I transcend ____________; in all moments”
“I repair and fortify the Wei Chi on all my bodies; in all moments”
“I align all my bodies; in all moments”
“I am centered and empowered in divine love; in all moments”
“I make space in this world to know true Love: in all moments”
“I remove all blockages to knowing true love; in all moments”
“I stretch my capacity to recognize true love; in all moments”
“I stretch my capacity to embrace true love; in all moments”

 

Untangle your knots and cut the cords between you and your problems !

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In flow

“If you can tune into your purpose and really align with it, setting goals so that your vision is an expression of that purpose, then life flows much more easily.”

Jack Canfield

There are certain places where ideas literally seem to flow into you. Perhaps in the shower, or a special spot in your garden. Perhaps somewhere close to the sea or another place in nature.

Sometimes inspiration can come out of nowhere, sometimes it comes quickly, sometimes it is huge, as a zip file that needs unpacking !

You urge yourself to sit down in front of your computer or you quickly grab your pen and a piece of paper, impatient to put into words what’s in your head !

You are excited to paint the image you have on your mind !

Perhaps you run to your garage cause you finally saw how your project needed to be adjusted !

You start writing very fast because you don’t want to miss anything that is in that head of yours. You are in a state of trance ! (Reminds me of ASOT)

At a certain moment, when you have finished your writings, you look at your paper, you can barely decipher your own writings anymore ! It’s a complete mess !

Little by little, bit by bit you start adjusting, putting order in the chaos. Untill finally your piece is finished. Voilà !

You ask yourself : “How did I do that ?” You completely lost track of time, you completely forgot your surroundings.

You realize you got lost in the creative process.

You were passionately involved with what you were doing.

And you just let it happen.

You were in flow.

God strikes his golden brush where sun and water meet.

Your actions are worth gold when inspired by the heart !

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Who lives in your head ?

I recently saw an episode of the Big Bang Theory where Sheldon and his friends were about to play a bowling tournament. Suddenly Sheldon found himself standing face to face with his enemy Wil Wheaton, a guy he really dislikes because he has beaten him at a card game several years ago.

While Wil doesn’t care what Sheldon thinks of him, Sheldon still struggles with feelings of resentment, irritation and hate !

Wil Wheaton : You’re not still carrying a grudge because I beat you at this card tournament, are you ?

Sheldon Cooper : I’m the proud owner of wilwheatonstinks.com, .net and .org. What does that tell you?

Wil Wheaton : It tells me that i am living rent-free right here. (Points at Sheldon’s head)

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Bang ! Big bang !

I started wondering : “Who is still living in MY head ?” “Who is living there rent-free ?” “Whom should I have refused entrance to a long time ago ?” “Who do I still allow running around in my mind, disturbing my inner peace, controlling my emotions ?”

Sometimes you replay several times in your head what has happened in the past and you start reliving the pain or the suffering that the person caused you. Perhaps you even start crying again or get angry when you think about it. And then the doubts creep in and you start blaming yourself : “I should have done this or I should have said that !”

Next time your mind wanders to a person or an event from the past that still triggers you emotionally, try to play another scenario in your head. Let go of the old condition and create a new scenario that brings you peace !

Let all this bottled up, unexpressed anger out of your system and state : “Stop ! I do not allow you to to cause havoc in my house !” (Seek help from a counselor or person you trust when these emotions are related to traumatic events, these people can assist you and provide a safe environment that allows you to relive the experience.)

All our emotions and thoughts are energy. We often place our focus and our intentions on things that do not feel good, but all they do is disrupt our sense of well-being, they bring our energy level down. When they are clogged long and deep enough they even cause disease in our bodies !

The only one who is holding the reins is you ! Why not go the direction that makes you feel good ? If negative feelings are suddenly bubbling up, do not feel guilty about how you feel but see it as an opportunity to refocus, to set your intentions straight, to choose experiences that are in alignement with your true self.

When your home is no longer disturbed by the hooligans from your past, you will have created enough space to allow the good into your life!

Phuro! Be inspired!

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The Goddess of mercy

Quan Yin in Sanskrit means “she who hears the cries of the people”.

She has been worshipped as the Chinese Bodhisattva of compassion by many for thousands of years. A bodhisattva is any soul that has attained enlightenment but instead of being freed of the karmic cycles and becoming a Buddha, chooses to stay on earth in order to help all beings attain enlightenment.

It is said that as Quan Yin was about to enter heaven, she paused when she heard the cries of the people, her compassion was so great that she returned to earth to help them.

She is worshiped by Buddhists and Taoists in China, Korea, Japan and Tibet. The qualities that Quan Yin invokes, the feeling of compassion and unconditional love make her comparable to Mother Mary.

Receive Quan Yin’s blessings in three ways : 

Quan Yin Invocation 

Set up an altar with a picture or statue of Quan Yin, the Mandala of Compassion, and either a stick or cone of Lotus or Amber incense.
Bow 3 times to Quan Yin
Offer water to her which she will bless.
Invite Quan Yin to come to you and appear.
Bring the palms of your hands together in the prayer mudra
Recite the following:

“May the Peace of Quan Yin be upon this household

May the Light of Quan Yin be in my soul

May the Wisdom of Quan Yin be in my mind

May the Virtue and Purity of Quan Yin be among the members of my household

May the Health and Well-Being of Quan Yin be manifest throughout my body,

And radiate through the garments I wear.

May the Grace of Quan Yin be in my worship

May the Talents and Genius of Quan Yin be manifest through my senses

May the Peace of Quan Yin be upon me!”

Next recite this mantra ten times: “Na Mo Quan Yin Bodhisattva”.
Drink the water blessed by Quan Yin, this water now has healing powers.
Dedicate this practice to the benefit and enlightenment of all beings. Close your ritual.

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Using Quan Yin’s healing mantra Weng Ma Ni Ba Ma Hong (as received by Master Sha)

Sit up straight. Put your left palm over your Message Center, also known as the heart chakra, in the middle of your chest. Hold your right hand in the traditional prayer position, with fingers pointing upward.

Say hello :

Dear soul mind body of Weng Ma Ni Ba Ma Hong,

I love you, honor you, and appreciate you.

Please heal              (make your requests).

Please transform my relationship with            (name a person or persons).

Dear all the people, animals, and nature that my ancestors and I have harmed in this life and past lives,

I sincerely ask for your forgiveness.

Please forgive my ancestors and me.

Dear anyone who has harmed me in this life and in my previous lives, I offer you my total forgiveness.

Dear Weng Ma Ni Ba Ma Hong,

Please bless me.

I am very grateful. 

Thank you

Visualize rainbow light radiating in all of the souls you have called, as well as in your own soul, heart, mind, and body, from head to toe and skin to bone.

Chant repeatedly, silently or aloud: Weng Ma Ni Ba Ma Hong nonstop for three to five minutes. Chant from the bottom of your heart with sincere apologies for all of the mistakes that you and your ancestors have made to hurt or harm any soul.

After chanting for at least three minutes, close: Hao! Hao! Hao! Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

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Using the mantra : Om Mani Padme Hum

The translation is “I bow to the jewel in the lotus.” Imagine that a beautiful lotus flower opens in your heart, with Kuan Yin at its center, as you recite the mantra. See Kuan Yin as the jewel in the lotus emanating a brilliant light !

Recite or chant Om Mani Padme Hum, slowly at first and then faster and faster. This creates a vibration that intensifies as you chant it.

You can use singing bowls, tuning forks or drums to enhance your experience. Mala beads can also be useful.

Practice this meditation while sitting or walking, in your home or outdoors in nature.

To close return to the silence, sit and breath calmly, slowly in and out for a few minutes.

Try this meditation for 20 minutes.

 

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Angels and butterflies

This summer I saw a peacock butterfly landing on one of my angel statues. I had the opportunity to take a picture of it.

This butterfly is very known and widely spread across Europe. It is quite spectacular with its eyes on it wings.

Peacock mimicry

In Central and South America and in the rainforest you can find owl butterflies also known for their huge eyespots, which resemble owl’s eyes.

They can be very large and prefer to fly at night when few predators are around. Their latin name refers to this, Caligo means darkness.

These butterflies have the ability to protect themselves, camouflaging themselves by mimicing an owl, so birds won’t be able to recognize them as a prey but see them as their enemy.

It seems there is a higher intelligence at work that keeps everything in this world balanced and protected…

Is there a higher power that – just as in nature – protects us when we are in danger ? Is the Divine keeping an eye on us too ?

If we would learn to turn to our true guides we could scare our enemies away. Our guides are always by our sides especially when we invoke them ! Divine intervention really exists !

Miracles can leave you wondering : “What has just happened ? How was I able to this ? How did I get this strength ?”

Assisted by the Divine you are able to project the darkness back to your agressors, holding a mirror in front of them. Your radiance can appear fearful to them.

Protected by the Divine, human angels can appear just in time of need, heaven sent ! “My savior appeared out of the blue…”

With our wings on, we are protected in darkness !

The Divine has many ways to communicate and to intervene, nothing is impossible !

Never consider it a coincidence. Just as it isn’t a coincidence that the moment I asked : “Who is with me today ?”, a peacock butterfly stranded on my way !

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What is love ?

 “Love is a flame that burns everything other than itself. It is the destruction of all that is false and the fulfillment of all that is true….”

Love is the source of life, at the core of our BEing we are Love. It is our essence.

Love transforms, transmutes and liberates. Love has no limitations. With Love things come alive, with Love anything can be made anew. Love transcends all space and time !

With feeling, thoughts and words come alive. If you could keep your mind focused on the positive and use constructive words all the time you would only see the positive in your life. When you feel tired, depressed, miserable, lonely, fearful, dreadful, you have driven off from source. You started to focus on your dark spots, putting your attention on them, reinforcing them along the way !

Maybe you feel you have been wandering in darkness for too long, having no clue where your inner light might be, and you lost all hope and faith in better times. Know that the power is still there, the flame can always be ressurected.  The light can always be switched on ! It is just a matter of screening yourself and restoring yourself to your divine blueprint.

There’s nothing wrong with your hardware. Your soul mind body system responds to what you put into it. You have downloaded the wrong software. Your commanding mechanism has been infected with viruses, now things get slow or systems get overloaded, ready to crash ! Reprogram yourself !

True Love dissolves the bugs of the ego we so cling on to. We are afraid of letting them go. We have to detach from the bad in our life. We have to stop owning and claiming our illnesses and problems.

Love creates a ripple effect, extending further then we can ever imagine. Love strengthens that which is good, overpowers that which is bad. Love straightens what is crooked.

Love easily multiplies. With enough love, one thing becomes the many. Love is the gift. By multiplying love you multiply the gift. You are able to touch souls, you have the power to touch lives. Give with love and you benefit the whole. Do what you do with love and you can expand anything. Give more love and receive more love !

 

“Love yourself and be awake –
today, tomorrow, always. 
First establish yourself in the way,
then teach others, and so defeat sorrow. 

To straighten the crooked
you must first do a harder thing,
straighten yourself.
You are the only master. Who else?
Subdue yourself, and discover your master.”

Phuro! Be inspired!

 

 

 

 

Don’t take life too seriously !

“Seriousness is a state of disease; humor is health. Love, laughter, life, they are aspects of the same energy.”

Osho

Playfulness is one of the most repressed parts of human beings. All societies, cultures, civilizations have been against playfulness because the playful person is never serious.
And unless a person is serious, he cannot be dominated, he cannot be made ambitious, he cannot be made to desire power, money, prestige.

The child never dies in anyone. It is not that the child dies when you grow, the child remains. Everything that you have been is still within you, and will remain within you until your very last breath.

But society is always afraid of nonserious people. Nonserious people will not be ambitious for money or political power; they would rather enjoy existence. But enjoying existence cannot bring you prestige, cannot make you powerfull, cannot fulfill your ego; and the whole world of man revolves around the idea of the ego.

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Playfulness is against your ego – you can try it and see. Just play with children and you will find your ego disappearing, you will find that you have become a child again. It is not only true about you, it is true about everyone.

Because the child within you has been repressed, you will repress your children. Nobody allows their children to dance and to sing and to shout and to jump. For trivial reasons ,perhaps something may get broken, perhaps they may get their clothes wet in the rain if they ran out – for these small things a great spiritual quality, playfulness is completely destroyed.

You have to drop all seriousness. You have to drop this seriousness because it has been forced upon you; this is not your nature. You did not come serious into the world, you came laughing. Each child is bubbling with joy and by the time he is four he starts dying. The age of four for the boys and the age of three for the girls is the time when death starts occurring.

My approach towards life is that of laughter. And laughter contains love, laughter contains joy and laughter contains gratitude. Laughter contains a tremendous thankfulness towards God. When you are really in deep belly laughter, your ego disappears. It happens very rarely in any other activity, but in laughter it is bound to happen.

No child is born serious, remember, but we destroy the innocence of the child. We destroy his qualities of wonder and awe, we destroy his laughter, we destroy everything that is beautiful and valuable, and instead we give him a load to carry on his head — of knowledge, of theology, of philosophy.

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The more and more he becomes educated by us, the more and more he loses all sense of humor. He can’t see any humor in existence because he starts living through his knowledge; he knows everything. Because of his knowledgeability all wonder is destroyed.

Because of his knowledgeability, the greatest religious quality — awe — is killed

Take hold of your own life. See that the whole existence is celebrating. These trees are not serious, these birds are not serious. The rivers and the oceans are wild, and everywhere there is fun, everywhere there is joy and delight. Watch existence, listen to the existence and become part of it. Then you become a Baul, then you become a lover — because love can exist only with a deep respect for fun, with a deep respect for delight.

Love cannot exist with a serious mind. With a serious mind, logic is in tune. be non-serious. I’m not saying not to be sincere. Be sincere, but be non-serious. Sincerity is something else; seriousness is totally different. Be sincere with existence, then you will be true; you will become part of this cosmic LEELA, this cosmic play.

Osho (Life, Love, Laughter)

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Nemen de emoties een loopje met jou ?

’s Avonds plof je je neer in de zetel. Je hebt nog zin in een snack en neemt een pakje chips of koekjes, maar voor je er erg in hebt, is het hele pak leeg ! Herkenbaar ?
Wel zo is het ook met negatieve gedachten : het begint met één hersenspinsel en voor je het weet heb je er een grote sneeuwbal van gemaakt ! En het lijkt allemaal buiten jouw weten om te gebeuren !

Per dag switch je duizend maal van de ene gedachte en emotie naar de andere zonder je  hiervan bewust te zijn. Zo’n wissel noemen we ook wel een shift in het Engels. Je neemt als het ware iedere keer opnieuw een andere “staat van zijn” aan : Je voelt je prettig of niet prettig, boordevol energie of lusteloos, blij of boos. Wat we vaak niet weten is dat onze negatieve gedachten en emoties onze kracht wegnemen. De eerste stap is dus dat we ons hiervan bewust dienen te worden.

Emoties zijn energie in beweging en kan je omschrijven als de gps van de ziel. Jouw gevoelens kunnen jou vertellen wanneer je van jouw koers bent afgeweken. Jouw emotionele reacties zijn het resultaat van jouw gedachten en geloofssystemen (over jezelf, over anderen, over de wereld).

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Positieve emoties gaan jou energie geven, jou sterker doen voelen en je gaat er beter door presteren. Laten we deze onze soldaten, onze pacmannetjes noemen . De negatieve emoties, die talrijker lijken te zijn, doen je slecht voelen en geven jou minder energie, je kan erdoor van slag raken, je kan ze vergelijken met spoken !

Negatieve emoties maken dat je minder helder gaat denken, minder efficiënt beslissingen gaat nemen en minder duidelijk gaat communiceren. Ze zijn ook echt slecht voor het goed functioneren van je lichaam : er treedt verminderde lichaamscoördinatie op en er is hogere kans op hoge bloeddruk en hartziekten.

Ieder pacmannetje en spookje heeft een bepaalde energie of straalt een bepaalde vibratie uit. Wanneer je een bepaalde emotie voelt, maakt deze jou sterk of zwak. Je gaat dit niet enkel merken aan jouw houding en gedrag maar ook aan de gedachten die in jouw hoofd rondspoken en de woorden waarmee je je uitdrukt. Denk maar aan : er is een knoop in mijn maag, het grijpt me naar de keel, ik sta op ontploffen, het maakt me niet meer uit…

Wanneer mensen bij elkaar komen in groep voor een manifestatie, feest of wedstrijd zegt men soms : de sfeer was grandioos, ik kreeg kippenvel van al dat enthousiasme. Je kan deze vibraties van al deze mensen dus niet meteen zien maar wel aanvoelen. Het tegengestelde kan je ook ervaren als de stemming grillig is, je krijgt een voorgevoel dat er iets slecht staat te gebeuren of je zegt : de spanning is te snijden !

We leggen de pacmannetjes en spookjes even uit van laag energieniveau naar hoog energieniveau :

PASSIEF

Spook Apathie, Spook Verdriet en Spook Angst zijn letterlijk de grootste energievreters. Ze zijn de demonen die jouw energielevel verlagen. Je kan bijvoorbeeld een zwaar gevoel hebben of donkere gedachten, kortom van kracht is er dan weinig of geen sprake ! Deze drie kunnen je immobiliseren. Zeg maar enkele woorden luidop en voel (in jouw lichaam) wat ze betekenen : ‘Ik kan het niet, ik ben een loser, ik voel me machteloos, ik heb hartzeer, och arme ik, ik voel me verraden, ik wil hier ontsnappen, ik ben in paniek, ik twijfel…’

Blijf je te lang stilstaan bij deze emoties dan geef je je controle over aan anderen want je hebt zelf te weinig energie. Je voelt je een slachtoffer en je vindt het onmogelijk om dit te veranderen. Je vertoont passief gedrag.

1.       Spook Apathie : wanneer je je apathisch voelt of vaak woorden gebruikt die gerelateerd zijn aan deze emotie, heb je zelf weinig of geen energie voor handen. Alles is jou teveel, je ondergaat alles gelaten, je denkt dat er niets goed voor jou is weggelegd. Je neemt zelf weinig of geen beslissingen. Je hebt hulp nodig maar zelfs voor hulp sta je niet echt open.

2.       Spook Verdriet : iedereen maakt wel al eens een periode mee van verdriet, we kunnen verdrietig zijn om de dood  van een geliefde, familielid of zelfs huisdier. We kunnen ons ook verdrietig voelen als er dingen zijn die niet lukken : we krijgen het gevoel dat we gefaald hebben. Als het gedaan is met ons liefje denken we dat we een mislukking zijn, we gaan de schuld op ons nemen, blijven we te lang stilstaan bij deze emotie dan verzwelgen we ons in zelfmedelijden.

3.       Spook Angst : Bij spook angst hebben we al iets meer energie voor handen. Als je echt in gevaar bent en je staat oog in oog met een beer, dan zal je het instinctief op een lopen zetten. Ons instinct zorgt ervoor dat je in een gevaarlijke situatie vlucht of vecht ! Maar wat als we angstig zijn voor een examen, een gesprek, een wedstrijd ? We weten dat ons leven niet echt in gevaar is maar toch kunnen allerlei dingen ons schrik aanjagen, angst kan ons verlammen, ons misselijk maken waardoor we niet meer kunnen bewegen, het kan ons ook in paniek doen slaan en ons “buiten zinnen” maken, waardoor we ons defensief gaan opstellen.

Bij deze 3 spookjes (apathie, verdriet en angst) zijn we het slachtoffer : we geven onze controle over onszelf uit handen ! We hebben weinig energie, we hebben geen fut, we laten anderen de beslissingen nemen. We lopen met ons hoofd naar beneden, vermijden oogcontact. Alles overkomt ons, we ondergaan alles en durven amper voor onszelf op te komen.

We gaan verder met de andere spoken, de energie nog steeds in stijgende lijn :

AGRESSIEF

Deze drie spookjes – lust, woede en trots – hebben al meer energie, toch wordt de energie nog op een negatieve manier gebruikt. Deze spookjes willen graag de controle over anderen en dat gaan ze ook laten merken in hun lichaamstaal en woorden : Ze doen “uit de hoogte”, ze dagen uit, ze voelen zich beter dan iemand anders ! Misschien denk je wel dat je sterker bent wanneer je gemeen bent of op wraak belust bent maar dat is helaas niet waar !

4.       Spook lust : dit spook vindt geen genoegen, geen bevrediging. Dit spook moet en wil van alles “vergaren”, hoe hij eraan komt maakt hem niets uit, zelfs als hij hiervoor iemand anders moet benadelen. Deze spoken zijn steeds jaloers op anderen : wat een ander heeft, willen zij ook ! Ze kijken vanuit de hoogte neer op anderen en voelen zichzelf steeds beter. Ze zijn zeer bezitterig, ook naar andere mensen toe !

5.       Spook woede : boosheid of woede is echt verwoestend en vernietigend. Heb je ooit al iemand gezien in razernij, iemand die in woede uitbarst ? Ze krijgen ogen als kogels en lijken “buiten zichzelf”. Ook al lijken deze spoken veel energie te hebben (kijk maar naar de vechtersbazen of pesters) ze zijn zeker niet in balans of de sterksten !!!

6.       Spook trots : spook trots heeft alles graag op zijn manier en is een heuse betweter. Misschien lijkt hij wel met iedereen overweg te kunnen, toch handelt hij vaak schijnheilig en hypocriet, hij weet wel beter. Deze spoken kunnen anderen uitstaan zolang ze zich onderdanig opstellen of zolang zij zichzelf als autoriteit kunnen kronen !

ASSERTIEF

Onze redders in nood zijn de pacmannetjes ! De pacmannetjes respecteren zichzelf en anderen en leren jou op een assertieve manier te reageren op bijvoorbeeld pestgedrag. Je herkent waarschijnlijk wel de pestkop in categorie lust-woede-trots, het zijn diegenen die op een agressieve manier reageren (ik ben meer dan anderen). Ben je zelf target van pesten dan val je in categorie angst-verdriet-apathie en reageer je op een passieve manier (anderen zijn meer of hebben meer recht dan ik, je bent het slachtoffer)

7.       Pacman moed : Deze pacman gebruikt zijn energie op een positieve manier. Zijn leuze is :”ik kan !” Hij is levenslustig en creatief en zal niet vlug de moed laten zakken. Hij zegt positieve dingen tegen zichzelf en weet dat hij veel kan overwinnen. Deze pacmannetjes tonen initiatief en betrekken ook anderen bij wat ze ondernemen. Zij gaan het vaak voor anderen opnemen zonder zelf in woede of angst te vallen. Zij blijven alert en in balans.

8.       Pacman aanvaarding : zelfs de akelige spoken zal deze pacman niet vlug beoordelen, hij is zeer empatisch zodat hij zich in veel situaties kan inleven. Zelfs als iemand boos is, zal hij deze mensen op een vriendelijke manier benaderen. Hij is begripvol en zal denken dat je een goede reden hebt om boos te zijn. Deze pacman handelt heel intuïtief (volgens het buikgevoel).

9.       Pacman vrede : deze pacmannetjes zijn heel uitzonderlijk. Ze zijn in vrede met zichzelf en in vrede met de wereld. Vaak zijn het mensen die iedereen wel weet te appreciëren, ze stralen steeds een rust uit, waardoor je graag in hun aanwezigheid vertoeft. Ze zijn vaak de mensen die geen woorden nodig hebben om jou de weg te wijzen. Hun “zijn” is aanstekelijk ! Voor deze pacmannetjes ben je net als één van hen : ze weten dat iedere mens één en gelijk is met alle anderen en behandelen iedereen als zijnde God.

Wil jij, jouw organisatie of school meer weten over mentale kracht en emotionele weerbaarheid ? Stuur me een mailtje en dan neem ik zo snel mogelijk contact met jullie op. Deze methode kan jullie snel inzicht geven in jullie emoties en hoe jullie deze onder controle kunnen houden. De methode kan gemakkelijk worden aangeleerd en eenvoudig worden toegepast ! Ik kom ook graag bij jullie langs om er een leuke workshop van te maken !

Er staan ook visuele hulpmiddelen ter jullie beschikking die jullie kunnen aanvragen bij info@phuro.be.

Phuro! Be inspired!

 

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