Silence is a savior

It was a normal Sunday morning when Richard and his son were heading off to football together…Richard was among those parents who liked to help out at the club where his son played, and he enjoyed running the line during his son’s matches.

But by the end of the day Richard was fighting for his life. The 41-year-old collapsed three hours after he was brutally attacked by a group of 17-year-olds from the opposing team. The following evening he died.

If we don’t control our emotions, they will control us. Making us unwittingly take actions we regret afterwards, making us react in a harmful way…

What would be the consequences if we let our anger and rage win ? Things can get out of hand rapidly…the unexpected can happen very suddenly…

What would happen once the damage has been done and there’s no turning back ? We would have to face the consequences !

When we feel triggered to react in a negative way, it is useful to build in a pause for a few moments and to focus on our breathing so we can get back to our senses.

Silence is the space between stimulus and response, between action and reaction.

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Silence is a savior. A significant mindful tool that can save us from a life full of regrets. Silence can prevent us from saying something nasty… Silence can even prevent us from acting stupid and getting us into bigger trouble…

Silence is a comforter. Silence brings back calmness and peace in case of turbulence. Silence quiets our minds and stills are senses. In solitude we withdraw and turn back to ourselves. Silence is the place where we really touch our core.

Silence is the space in which we bend time. It is the most effective time to pray or affirm. It’s a powerful aid to bring wisdom and awareness to our spiritual eye.

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Silence is a natural influencer, unable to be controlled by outside forces. Silence balances and counters all verbal and physical attacks. Silence helps us bounce back after a setback.

In silence, confidence is found. In silence our shadow is integrated and all the aspects of ourselves are reconciled.

Silence is the place of unlimited possibilities. In silence we reclaim our power, in silence we make ourselves whole again.

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Between breaths

“In a dream, in a vision of the night, while slumbering on their beds, then He opens the ears of men, and seals their instruction.” 

Book of Job (33: 15-16)

It’s 9 am and you are sitting at your desk in front of your computer. Are you ready for take off ? Ready to face all challenges ?

The course of your day might depend on how it actually started. Let us rewind for a moment. What were you thinking of before you arrived at your workplace, when you were driving in your car ?

When you were at home, were you arguing with your spouse at the breakfast table ? Were you rushing to get the kids ready for school, were you screaming and shouting or running around like a headless chicken ?

When you heard your alarm going off this morning and you pushed the snooze button, how were you feeling ? Were you anxious to get out of bed, thinking : “All that awaits is another shitty day in the office” ? Well, isn’t that enough stress to start your day with ?

Why don’t you take some time to balance yourself and take control over the course of your day ?

Two key moments of the day is the morning when you wake up, when you open your eyes and the moment before you go to sleep, when you shut your eyes.

The morning is used to determine your vision. While you are still in bed, start by focusing on your breath, inhale slowly and deeply through your nose, exhale gently through your mouth. What do you exactly desire today ? Evoke a mental picture of your ideal day.

Keep breathing at a gentle pace and try to notice the pause beween your breaths, between filling and emptying your lungs.

If you increase this pause without forcing your breathing, your mind will become quieter, and a quiet mind means a powerful mind. You can access a natural state of higher consciousness.

Have you ever looked at a sunset, or a spectacular landscape and felt in awe ? Didn’t you say afterwards : “That moment just took my breath away” ? Didn’t your thinking cease aswell ?

The evening is intended to revise the day. Start to focus on your breath as you did in the morning. Rewind your day to see what has happened. This might be difficult in the beginning, but you’ll make progress very easily ! Once you’ve fully mastered this revision technique, you can put certain moments on hold.

Scenes for example that you would prefer to see differently, more enjoyable, you can start adjusting according to your preference !

Make sure you don’t cling on to fearful situations. Do not go to sleep constantly repeating all the bad stuff that has happened in your life. It’s important that you have a clear image of what you want and a positive feeling should accompany it. If you can’t imagine a positive outcome, you better focus on a positive statement or you can silently chant “OM” or repeat another mantra.

If you feel you are losing control during the day and troublesome emotions are bubbling up, use a breathing technique such as Freeze Frame® or Quick Coherence® developed by the HeartMath institute to bring you back into this balanced state. Always try to visualize a feel good situation, imagine yourself in your happy place just as Happy Gilmore did !

This vision and revision technique will help you “clean up” daily and you will consciously choose to steer your life in the direction you want.

It wil also help you build a pause between stimulus and response, before you react to the external stimuli around you.

Remember today is the first day of the rest of your life. Every day offers you a chance for renewal, every day is a gift !

Life loves you. Give that love back by putting it in yourself first and stop your negative self-talk, your oppressive, restrictive thoughts and focus on the good.

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Brain cells create ideas.
Stress kills brain cells
Stress is not a good idea !

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